To feel a bit judged by his tone?

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Hmmthanks · 15/05/2018 11:33

I live in quite a nice area in a big rented house (context!) - houseshare so couldn’t afford it myself. I’m currently off from work ill so ordered an ad hoc grocery delivery and when I picked it up, was clearly still in pjs, greasy hair at mid-morning - was clear I’m not at work etc, whatever.

The driver sort of sized me up and down and then the first thing he said was “are these council houses?” I have no idea what he meant by that but can only imagine it be based on the fact I’m clearly not at work atm? The houses themselves are London terraced houses in a posh suburb so don’t look like it.

I don’t get why people think that’s an appropriate conversation starter either?!

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Bridesmaidinchief · 15/05/2018 11:35

Very rude!!

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 15/05/2018 11:37

Wow I’d probably complain to his work about that. If it wasn’t in context then he must have meant it in a judgy, insulting way. X

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Hmmthanks · 15/05/2018 11:38

I handled it so badly - sort of stammered out that I rent privately. Urgh. As if it’s any of his sodding business

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Hmmthanks · 15/05/2018 11:40

English wasn’t his first language and he wasn’t asking in a rude manner per se, in fairness. I don’t want to complain as I don’t want to stir. But it really embarrassed me! I look a state and I felt really judged by his implication that I must therefore not have a job etc

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Hmmthanks · 15/05/2018 11:40

And anyway even if they were, very rude of him to ask

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IsaidMrDarcynotArsey · 15/05/2018 11:42

What a cheeky Bollix he was! Don’t waste another moment on his twunttery. Enjoy a relaxing day off - you earned it!

LooseyInTheSky · 15/05/2018 11:53

Perhaps he was just genuinely curious? I think you're projecting somewhat.

SluttyButty · 15/05/2018 11:55

😳 That's so rude! I'm fairly sure that most people in social housing,private rent and bought houses look far smarter than I do at 11am. I'm usually always in my dressing gown, looking a state even at midday. I have to wait until I've unstiffened and feel reasonably ok before I get dressed.

No one needs judgemental people like that in their lives even if they're just delivering your groceries...

MereDintofPandiculation · 15/05/2018 11:59

Maybe he or one of his friends/relatives is in line for a Council house and he was interested in what sort of properties they might be? If he didn't say it in a rude manner I doubt whether he was judging.

On the other hand, I'm bemused at your assumption that if it were a Council property, that meant the implication was that you didn't have a job.

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