To ask what to give as an evening guest for wedding?

[Lolly567]

We’ve only ever been invited as day guests so not sure about etiquette for evening guests. We know the groom as he is OH’s old school friend. They haven’t provided a gift list. Was thinking cash- but how much? We are really scrimping at the moment as we are trying to get a deposit together. I’ve bought nothing for myself for a few months! Would £30 from us both seem very stingy? Maybe £40? Thanks in advanced!

Evening gifts are much smaller in my circle. We'd either give £25 or a bottle of champagne.

I think £30 is fine or even a nice bottle of wine and a card

Generally I judge it on how well you know them! Old school friend but still sees often? Still close?
I also judge it that if they don't provide a gift list they are not expecting anything.
Usually a card & a bottle of fizz will suffice!

Agree with @MrKaplansGlasses.

Bottle of champagne or £30 would be about right in our circles too.

A framed photo of yourselves 😂

We had a wedding list , but were delighted when some ignored it and got what they wanted to get us as a gift. Fifteen years on, the wooden fruit bowl and the dining room walk clock is still going strong. It doesn’t matter if you spend a fiver on the gift, as long as you buy it with love and turn up on the day ready to celebrate with them.

Absolutely this ^

A bottle of champagne is always nice. When we got married a colleague of my husband's and his wife had a little hamper that they made sent to our room - it had wine, snacks, and bottles of water. It was fab!

Thanks very much for all your replies! That’s all very reassuring!