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AIBU?

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Middle Class problem, but AIBU?!

113 replies

Maffy · 22/03/2018 16:07

Apologies... Nancy Mitford would be proud.

However, my DC's school insists on polo shirt top buttons being done up for school photos.

They have no ties, it is a primary school, there is no school policy about it, and no children do up their top buttons normally.

Yet for every school photo, all my morning requests and pleading from DC goes unheeded. My DC come home upset and are captured for eternity looking like Bolsheviks.

AIBU?!

OP posts:
UnimaginativeUsername · 22/03/2018 16:09

DS2 looked like an actual zombie in his photo this year. A zombie in s polo shirt with none of the buttons done up.

Original poster
Maffy · 22/03/2018 16:13

At least zombies are not common...

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UpstartCrow · 22/03/2018 16:14

Every year for 7 years, not one decent photo. I dont know which one was worse, Year of the Slapped Cheek or Year of the Smug.

Justanotherzombie · 22/03/2018 16:15

I don't think cute school photos are the things memories are made of.

Top button done up angry faces ones however.....

Aliasgrace1 · 22/03/2018 16:18

I always tuck my boys polo shirt collars into their jumpers and for school picture day someone always pulls them out Hmm yanbu

LostMyLunchMoney · 22/03/2018 16:23

It took a few years, but this year I finally managed to train my DC to keep their top buttons undone and tell the photographer that their mum wouldn't buy the pictures if they made them do their buttons up.

Pleased to report that the pictures are just as shit but at least they look like shit photos of my children. Grin

Hoppinggreen · 22/03/2018 16:41

DS school have logo polo shirts so I always make sure he’s got a whiteish and vaguely ironed one on for photo day
But no, the woman from Tempest ( who by all accounts actually hates children anyway) insists he HAS to wear the logo jumper
All of his school photos involve him wearing a creased jumper 2sizes too small and messy hair due to said jumper being squeezed over his rather large head.

ThatItIs · 22/03/2018 16:43

I,wouldn’t care because I never bought a school photo. They are usually crap and they are ridiculously Expensive. I’m not a mug!

We got into the habit of taking our own school photos. We took one of each kid on the first day of the school year.

phlewf · 22/03/2018 16:45

My ds rarely bruises. Except on picture day when in 3 school pics he’s got a black eye. He’s generally as pure white and for some reason they can’t adjust the flash so I have 3 photos for a Victorian street child.

JamPasty · 22/03/2018 17:08

Cut the buttons off on school photo day... :)

UpstartCrow · 22/03/2018 17:10

phlewf wins the thread Grin

NC4Now · 22/03/2018 17:12

Not sure why this is middle class? Hmm

MorningsEleven · 22/03/2018 17:13

I've never bought one, they make my kids look like pickled aliens.

Gruach · 22/03/2018 17:17

Tiny Bolsheviks?

GrinGrinGrin

Hadalifeonce · 22/03/2018 17:23

I once took DD into school to have her photo taken with her big brother. Just as the photographer clicked DD had turned to look adoringly at BB. the picture was wonderful, the photographer said he would have to take a second one and delete the first. When I pointed out it was a brilliant picture he said ' I know, but the rule is the children have to be looking at the camera'.
I insisted that was the photograph I wanted and he was not to take another, he shrugged and said it might get deleted anyway and i wouldn't have one at all.

I still have the photograph, some 13 years later, and it's one of my favourites of the few of them both together.

Fekko · 22/03/2018 17:28

It seems that every year DS managed to get a black eye or cut on his face the day photos are taken. Only on that day though. and fortunately the incidents happen at school.

We have some lovely photos... Black eyes, gappy smile, butterfly plaster (not sure if that's the name but holds 2 sides of a cut together) and one bad haircut.

AuntLydia · 22/03/2018 17:31

It seems bizarre to object to the top button on the basis of some stupid class rules about it looking common. If you just don't like the look, don't think it's necessary then fair enough. But because it makes your kids look less middle class than you'd like?! I'd like to think the photographer is a fully paid up member of the socialist workers party and they go round to naice middle class schools insisting on top buttons to wind up the parents.

BikeRunSki · 22/03/2018 17:32

The dc’s school always does photos on Thursdays. Three classes also go swimming on Thursdays. In order not to be late for their swimming lesson, they do their photos after swimming, with red eyes, drippy hair and shirts all over the place.

ReanimatedSGB · 22/03/2018 17:32

DS has slightly goofy teeth (the dentist said he can't have them straightened till all his adult teeth are through) so he always looks like a slightly grubby were-rabbit in pics.

SluttyButty · 22/03/2018 17:38

My DS has one of him after he’d cut his own hair. He looked like Baldrick and still cringes when I whip the photo out to show people Grin

NeedsAsockamnesty · 22/03/2018 17:39

NC4 it’s the button with no tie on

BennyTheBall · 22/03/2018 17:43

The only school photos I have ever purchased are the whole class or whole school ones.

I have never been tempted to buy the individual or sibling ones as they're always weird.

UnimaginativeUsername · 22/03/2018 17:43

I’m pretty sure DS2 would have looked like a less dishevelled zombie if he’d done up any (or all) of the buttons in his polo shirt. Or if he hadn’t messed his hair up to create a crazy quiff.

Is looking like a zombie that’s been dragged through the undergrowth the desired look for MC school photos?

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 22/03/2018 17:45

My favourite is the one where ds1 is 🙂 Ds 2 is 😆Manically and 3 is ☹️. It's hysterical. My mates ds nursery one was perfect, except for the huge bogey up his nose.

Lovesagin · 22/03/2018 17:48

What's middle class about this? Am I missing an inside joke about shirt buttons? Confused