to not want to go to the hen weekend

[marieg76]

A friend is getting married in late summer (I know here through DH who is good friends with her DH to be). We live in Surrey and the hen weekend is a four hour train journey away. I don't want to drive the journey as it will be on a bank holiday weekend and I don't fancy getting stuck on the M1 when 20 wks pg and bursting for the loo. We are moving house the day before the hen weekend so I am pretty much inclined to consider that a) I am going to be absolutely knackered come the hen weekend and b) that four hours on the train is going to be pretty darned hard.

My DH is saying that I should just go and enjoy myself but with the dread of the journey, I won't enjoy myself. AIBU not wanting to go?

It sounds like torture. You really do not have to go, so don't.

Don't go if you don't want to - for some reason since having my lo 13 weeks ago I've become very firm and assertive when it comes to thing like this and feel I'm getting my priorities right - I've just turned down a hen weekend of a friend who I love to bits but expects the world to fork out a fortune and jump through hoops for her hen do when she hasn't been out with the girls or made any effort with any of us since getting together with her fella! I'm going on another hen do the weekend after of a friend who does keep in touch and doesn't 'expect' anything. I almost got myself in trouble when I nearly didn't invite a friend who had just had a baby on my hen do - I was honoured and flattered that she would make the effort to come - but would have understood perfectly if she didn't.

You don't say what sort of hen do but if it's going to be boozy do you've got the perfect excuse.