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To be annoyed about babysitting?

19 replies

Hobbnobb1 · 07/03/2018 16:27

I am a single parent to twins who have just turned 2 (there father walked out when they were 8 weeks old and hasn’t seen them since) but thats fine with me we’re muddling through. My brother and sister in law had their 1st baby 8 months ago and all sil has done since then is whinge that she never gets to see her friends and has no social life - well what did she expect? I was a proper party girl before I had my kids I went out every night of the week and my friends were my life but I understood that it would change when I had my babies, I never go out, I work and look after my dc. Anyway every time I saw her she would moan that she never had time to work out so I offered to look after my niece on Friday evenings so she could go to Zumba that soon turned into me having her over night so sil could go swimming after her class, I’ve been doing it for 3-4 months now. Last week a mutual friend showed me loads of pictures of her on Facebook apparently she goes out every Friday night and isn’t even a member of the gym! She is a sahm and my brother works nights so there are times when she could go out in the day during the week but she chooses not to. I love my niece loads and don’t mind babysitting but am really annoyed that she has lied to me. Aibu?

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ethelfleda · 07/03/2018 16:29

YANBU - you've been helping her out in good faith and she has lied to you needlessly! I would be annoyed too.

PhelanThePain · 07/03/2018 16:30

I would be telling her you’re going out on Saturday nights now and she can have your twins. Tell her youre going to a class.

Trinity66 · 07/03/2018 16:31

No, I hate liars it would piss me off so much! Why could she not just tell you the truth? so odd

MsSquiz · 07/03/2018 17:20

Does she ever return the favour and have your twins?

toolonglurking · 07/03/2018 17:22

That's appalling! You need to tell her you know and that the childcare stops immediately!

Hobbnobb1 · 07/03/2018 17:45

No she would never have my twins she says she can’t handle 3 kids at once 🙄

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PhelanThePain · 07/03/2018 17:57

Right well then you can’t handle 3 kids anymore either. No more Friday nights out for her.

gingergenius · 07/03/2018 18:00

Total CF. Unbelievable. I'd have to say something - esp in front of DB. Totally unacceptable.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/03/2018 18:00

Cheeky mare. That’s awful!

Your brother is in on it too as he must know, horrible way to use your goodwill.

MsSquiz · 07/03/2018 18:00

So her and your brother can't handle 3 kids, but you can by yourself?

Sounds like she's taking the mick, and as nice as I'm sure it is for your twins to spend time with their cousin, it really needs to stop or work both ways

Idontdowindows · 07/03/2018 18:35

Wow, that's beyond cheeky.

She's taking the michael.

YouTheCat · 07/03/2018 18:38

Tell her you don't want to do it anymore.

veuveo · 07/03/2018 18:44

That's very cheeky

SchoolMoney · 07/03/2018 18:48

Yanbu. Tell her you know someone who can mind your two (only yours) so you can join her in this class. Watch her squirm then tell her to jog on.

IggyAce · 07/03/2018 18:56

Not on I would be very upset and I would stop babysitting and tell her why.

Branleuse · 07/03/2018 20:45

shes a cheeky fucker

NoSquirrels · 07/03/2018 20:49

You have 2 year old twin toddlers and you voluntarily look after an extra 8 month old baby overnight every Friday?

You’re amazing.

But also a mug. Stop doing that!

teaandtoast · 07/03/2018 20:50

CF!

steamcomingoutofmyears22 · 07/03/2018 21:01

Cheeky fucker alert!!
Tell her you've seen the photos and know what's going on.
Say that you're willing to carry on with some Friday nights as long as it's a turn and turn about arrangement.
You have all the kids one weekend, then she has them for a day or night the next.... Sounds fair to me Grin

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