DH and I are arguing alot. It starts with how he handles situations with DCs and gets bigger.
He will say he has been more gentle than he was to the point of insinuating DCs are lying and wanting to punish ( which starts an argument. )
Also with older DC he never cuddles, kisses or says he loves them, it makes me very defensive as I can feel how his rulings and actions must feel like they don't come from a place of love.
Spoke to DH about it weeks ago and he agreed he needs to sort it but nothing has changed.
I feel like I need to defend DCs but also can't keep arguing in front of DCs or about DCs.