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To be annoyed at this

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lizzlebizzle33 · 23/02/2018 19:38

Made tea for myself, DP and Ds. Nothing fancy, fish cakes, green beans and carrot/swede mash.

DP is a pretty fussy eater which doesn't really bother me but the only veg he will eat is carrots and green beans. I don't even really like green beans but I get them for him.

So anyway, gave Ds his tea in his high chair, took mine to the table and left his on a plate in the oven as he was busy at the time.

When he went to get it he immediately scraped the veg straight into the bin!!!!

If he didn't want it he could put it to one side or ask if I wanted it but it really pissed me off that without even tasting any of it he just put it in the bin.

AIBU to be pissed at this? Or is it just veg and I should get over it?

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thenettyprofessor · 23/02/2018 19:39

I would be pissed off and tell him to make dinner in future

Sirzy · 23/02/2018 19:39

Maybe he just didn’t fancy veg?

Greyponcho · 23/02/2018 19:40

But to not offer it to you or save it? Wasteful

Nottheduchessofcambridge · 23/02/2018 19:41

Even if he didn’t want them, that’s really rude.

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 23/02/2018 19:41

Let him make his own meals from now on.

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 23/02/2018 19:41

Imho the carrot & Swede mash belongs in the bin as cannot stand swede-the green beans were fine though.

KarmaStar · 23/02/2018 19:42

YANBU OP,that was rude.if he didn't want them he could have thanked you for cooking,offered you the veg explaining he didn't fancy it tonight.

Pengggwn · 23/02/2018 19:42

That's very rude.

Cynara · 23/02/2018 19:43

Rude and dismissive. I'd be pissed off too.

reup · 23/02/2018 19:43

How rude. Get him to make his own.

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lizzlebizzle33 · 23/02/2018 19:45

This is how I feel now, that I don't want to cook for him anymore.

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ParadiseLaundry · 23/02/2018 19:45

I'm absolutely furious on your behalf. How disrespectful and rude.

He should be made to make his own dinner from now on, the arsehole.

honeylulu · 23/02/2018 19:45

Rude rude rude.

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lizzlebizzle33 · 23/02/2018 19:47

I know it was only veg and it's not like I grew it myself but it did upset me. When you spend all day looking after and. Cleaning up after 2 kids then cook tea as well, for him to just put it in the bin was actually quite hurtful.

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Pengggwn · 23/02/2018 19:50

When anyone cooks for you, it's a kindness. To bin the food without tasting it - Shock

If he went to dinner with his family would he do that?

ScreamingValenta · 23/02/2018 19:51

Very rude. If he didn't want it, he should simply have left it on his plate.

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lizzlebizzle33 · 23/02/2018 19:52

If he was at his parents he would just leave it on the plate if he didn't want it, that's what pushed me off the most, the fact it just went out of the oven and into the bin.

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Pengggwn · 23/02/2018 19:53

So he knows how to behave. He is just being disrespectful when you've cooked the meal? I would go BATSHIT.

gamerwidow · 23/02/2018 19:54

Very rude and he knows it was rude and is making a point.

Greyponcho · 23/02/2018 19:54

You don’t feel as though it’s the veg he binned so thoughtlessly, but the effort and consideration you put into making something you thought he’d like, am I correct?
I’d guess that his action seems dismissive of your efforts, taking the meal (& you) for granted, so that’s why you feel hurt?

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lizzlebizzle33 · 23/02/2018 19:57

@Greyponcho you must have hit the nail on the head then as you made me cry, you're right, I feel totally used and unappreciated

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IHaveACuntingPlan · 23/02/2018 20:12

Give him sausage and mash everyday for a week and see if he improves his behaviour.

Sorry, I was being silly. Yanbu, that would really annoy me and is probably refuse to make anything else for him.

littlemisscomper · 23/02/2018 20:16

I'm hoping 'DP' stands for 'DarlingPRETEEN' - otherwise just Shock Shock Shock Either way I think you need to cut access to the household internet supply until he's learned some basic manners!

OnTheRise · 23/02/2018 20:26

Carrot and swede mash is delicious and nutritious. He is not only being unreasonable, he is being foolish.

Next time, ask me round. I will eat everything and adore you for cooking it.

ChasedByBees · 23/02/2018 20:29

That is really rude, not least because swede are awkward buggers to peel. What a waste of effort and how disrespectful.

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