Hospital stay

[DextroDependant]

I am having an operation at the end of April. I texted Exh to tell him the date and let him know he needs to pick the dc up that day, Friday and keep them until the Sunday evening.
I should get out of hospital on the Sunday. If not I have made arrangements for the children for Sunday night and getting to school.
I have arranged after school childcare for the Friday so he doesn't have to leave early from work.

Well he ignored my message so when he picked the kids up on Sunday I asked him had he got my message and he said - yea I will see what I can do.
He will have to book the Saturday off work or ask his partner of 7 years to watch them while he works but that is tough surely, it's not like I can take them with me.

The dc are 10 and 13 so not like it's a huge hardship to have them.

He usually has them 10 - 6 on a Sunday.

So AIBU to expect this to just be a given that he would step up and have them? I am going into hospital not a boozy weekend away.

I am going into hospital not a boozy weekend away.

Maybe say this to him. I cannot see why he would be unreasonable about this. Are his own children a burden to him? Unless he has plans?

He knows where I am going, I have been on the waiting list for 8 months so it's not a surprise and he has plenty of notice.

He didn't mention any plans but even if he did have plans I think their other parent actually trumps most things.

I agree. Sounds like he is sulking to me, which is why I asked about plans. Is his DP possibly giving him hassle about it? As long as he's there for the kids and you know for a fact he will pick them up, then he can have an attitude all day long. He has no excuse really!

Oh OP, men like this make me

He is their father! He is their parent! You shouldn't have to feel like you're asking him for a favour. What an arse. No wonder he is ExH.

Hope all goes well with your operation.

Thanks it's a pretty grim OP with a long recovery but I will able to manage the dc after I get out, just need a hand when I am unavailable.

@Raffles she could be, the dc say she doesn't really bother with them which is sad as she has been in their life so long but I don't comment on it.

That could be the issue then. In which case, she can suck it up. It's not really her decision.

He knows full well he can have them, he Just isn't feeling generous enough to say yes to you.

That's what I don't get, why be a pain about it? If it was the other way round I would say yes of course, is there anything else I can do to help? When he has had surgery I have told him to reduce maintenance while he is off work and don't worry about having the kids until he is back on his feet.

It could be because he doesn't think my surgery is necessary, it's double jaw surgery which is elective but he thinks it's cosmetic. (Its not, it's for a functional bite).