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The RAGE!!

23 replies

TotHappy · 18/02/2018 08:38

Dh and me agreed we'd have sone couple time last night - it's been a while. Played a board game, had some gin, he gave me a massage, we both agreed we were too tired for sex, i went to sleep, he said he'd be up in a few after he had a cig.
I come down this morning and find he's opened and drunk half of a bottle of champagne that i had in the fridge ready to take to a friend's today. I picked it up last night and asked him if he wanted us to share it, he said he'd rather have gin, i said ok in that case I'll take it to x tomorrow when i go, he agreed.
The bastard obviously finished the gin and wanted more.
I've been through his jeans and picked up £3 but that's it... No champagne for me! But what to do next I.e. When he wakes up?

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toolonglurking · 18/02/2018 08:40

Ask him for some cash to buy another bottle would be the sensible adult thing to do.

TheQueenOfWands · 18/02/2018 08:41

Just send him out for a new bottle when he wakes up.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 18/02/2018 08:41

Ask him to nip out and replace it or you pick up a bottle while you are out? Not getting THE RAGE really

Bluedoglead · 18/02/2018 08:42

Just ask him to get another bottle. Why RAGE?

FilledSoda · 18/02/2018 08:44

The bastard ?
Bit harsh . Is this a lighthearted post?
I can't imagine saying that about my dh or reacting as you have.

NaiceBiscuits · 18/02/2018 08:44

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StripySocksAndDocs · 18/02/2018 08:46

Inform him he's broken the terms and conditions of your relationship agreement. Then fine him for the cost of the champagne.

arethereanyleftatall · 18/02/2018 08:55

Non issue. No need for rage.
He just buys another bottle.

woodhill · 18/02/2018 08:56

Just ask him to reimburse you for new bottle.

DH is terrible for opening wine

Bluntness100 · 18/02/2018 08:58

I'm not really getting the issue. Is there a reason you need to take champagne and if so, can you not afford another bottle between uou?

Was it your champagne and he was not allowed to drink it without your permission?

Bluntness100 · 18/02/2018 08:59

Just ask him to reimburse you for new bottle

They are married. That's taking seperate finances to a whole new level

SundaysFunday · 18/02/2018 09:00

Send him out for another bottle when he wakes up.

No need for rage Wink

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TotHappy · 18/02/2018 09:04

We'll, it didn't start lighthearted but the rage has shared, so you're right... That was a bit over the top. I did originally suggest we both drink it so not a bottle that was forbidden to him or anything. Friend does know, as i texted her last night saying I'd bring it if she fancied, and he won't be able to buy another, already asked me to lend him housekeeping money till next Friday for the gin. However. Perhaps when next Friday cones he can also buy me some more champagne.

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TotHappy · 18/02/2018 09:08

Dammit, i mean the rage has abated
It was mine as it was a bday present that got left at my dads, i went to get it last night. We can't really afford champagne, that's why we usually slum it on cava so perhaps the rage was at the thought i didn't drink it with him and now can't drink it with my friend either... But as you say, i can just finish the bottle tonight -without him-

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Bluntness100 · 18/02/2018 09:11

Ah, I see why you're annoyed, it was your birthday present, you had promised it as a gift and you can't afford to replace it.

I think you need to text your friend jokingly and say he drank it. It was a bit shitty for him to do it.

52FestiveRoad · 18/02/2018 09:16

But you asked him if he wanted to drink it together, then he waited until you went to bed and drank it himself! I think that is pretty low. YANBU to be annoyed, and yes, get him to pay for a replacement.

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TotHappy · 18/02/2018 09:23

Yep, not the convivial/romantic sharing of a special thing i had in mind 52 , it seems to add insult to injury that he used one of the special, posh champagne saucers to drink it from! Like he was having a romantic, special moment on his own!

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feska5 · 18/02/2018 09:27

I think probably the fact that he was a bit selfish and thoughtless bothered you more than the drinking of the actual champagne. Hope he did the teaspoon in the neck of the botttle trick so it doesn’t lose its fizz!

Blackteadrinker77 · 18/02/2018 09:29

He clearly wasn't too tired Wink

Maryann1975 · 18/02/2018 09:35

I get your rage op. It would never occur to me to open a bottle of champagne just for me, when dh had gone to bed. I think that’s pretty shit of him. You offered to share it with him, not for him to drink it alone.

Notasunnybunny · 18/02/2018 09:40

A random bottle of champagne in the fridge, not something to get too cross about but a birthday gift you offered to share with him which he helped himself to without you, yanbu to be annoyed. Very selfish and thoughtless, the fact you offered to share it with him is not a free pass to help himself.

Lizzie48 · 18/02/2018 09:50

That was thoughtless and selfish on your DH's part, definitely. YANBU to be annoyed, it would have really annoyed me. Just explain to your friend and tell your DH he needs to buy a bottle of cava for you to take to her house.

And definitely drink the rest of the champagne yourself tonight. Smile

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TotHappy · 18/02/2018 09:50

Friend has just asked if leaving half the bottle is his idea of sharing. Maybe it is! If so, idiot

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