To be unreasonably annoyed when a really spicy thread is deleted!!

[Howdydoodyfolks]

It is like reading a great book and then the last page being ripped out! What is the ending??? We will never know

Yup. Sometimes I can't figure out why they've gone too.

YANBU!

Maybe because people are asking for advice and not providing entertainment for strangers on the internet?
Is a bit irksome though when you take time to give advice and it’s ignored (?) when the OP doesn’t come back

I was about to say the OPs not replying to a thread they start is more frustrating to me.

Glad Im not the only one!! I know sometimes it could be because the OP has been outed and requested it be deleted, but still ..

I agree. It feels like a waste of my time to reply to a thread only for the OP to ask to pull it.

I understand the outing reasons but over the medium to longer term, it would affect my motivation to take the time to post any helpful advice at all and ultimately turn me off the site.

It should not be automatic at OP's request, and I don't believe it is. I hope mn balances the interests of the OP against the interests of the site and others who find the thread useful.

It's an open forum on the internet. It amazes me how some people don't get that it's about as public as it's possible to be. Don't post anything that you wouldn't be happy to see in a national paper, with your mum reading it.

Exactly KickAssAngel!! Always expect the Daily Mail to get hold of it, and always presume the person you are moaning about will read it - if you are not happy with that then dont blooming well post!

It really annoys me when OPs get pissed that the thread isn’t going the way they want it to so they claim they’re either “outed” or it’s causing them “distress”.

Ah that’s why I can’t find it.

Grr

That was going to be my reading material for this evening.

Which thread are you on about?

Most annoying is ones that are removed because they don't go the OP's way. I put on a thread about a trivial incident and got torn to shreds by some posters. Quite a few really. But I wouldn't ask for it to be deleted because folk didn't agree.

It wasn't very spicy I'm sorry to say!

Viviennemary - true, maybe "spicy" wasnt the right word but I couldnt think of a better one at the time
RoseWhiteTips - I'm on about the one where there were a group of friends and a newby was causing problems. Better not say anymore about is as this one will be deleted!!!

Oh sorry Viviennemary - you meant your one wasnt spicy, thought you meant the one that was deleted! Am confusing myself here

It's really irritating if you put emotional labour into a long reply and then it's...gone. Especially if it's something intetrsting

I'm still annoyed about the £200 bracelet one from years ago. It was hilarious. The OP could have done the decent thing once the penny dropped and held her hands up and admit she was wrong.

Why has the newbie friend one been deleted?

Yanbu at all!

I read that too.

You do know that the vast majority of the "spicy" threads are bollocks don't you? For example the CF threads, the MIL threads and the "is he cheating" threads

YANBU at all!

The one last week for eg about whether it was unreasonable for the OP to pull a sickie from work for three days because she "needed" the time off. It got deleted because apparently the OP, "tartanjess", was a previously banned user. Mumsnet will never tell us why but I'd love to know what she was banned for!

The latest one to come down was the lady who posted about her daughter being wrongfully expelled from school...and now we will never know the truth about why it really happened (her account was seriously confusing)....

What happened with the thread about the warrant out for the OP's arrest for not attending jury service? That wasn't a troll, surely?

Ahh yes, the “shall I throw a sickie for a test for dream job?”.
Fine, ask us by all means, but ffs don’t start a repeat thread asking the same shit question because you got bored of the first and then drip-feed as to why you can’t take unpaid leave. Baffling.