Pissed off with DH over xmas present

[MrsMaxwell]

AIBU to be really pissed off?

Asked DH what he wanted for xmas, he told me I was organising said gift for him.

Doorbell rings this morning and parcel arrives and he has ordered said gift for himself as he “found a bargain” although not mentioned it to me and I have already fucking ordered it for him.

Clearly I wasn’t to be trusted to get the right fucking thing - I am fuming!

Ah well, just return it.

YABU a bit. It's not the end of the world. Send yours back.

My dad did this last year to my mum, she was filming, this year my dad's sister has done the same thing, My mum is furious, must be a family thing lol

I would coldly completely ignore what he's done, just give him the gift at Christmas as planned. If he objects to having bought one himself that's his problem, he'd already asked for it, would view it the same as if he bought the bargain one after receiving yours. Don't entertain the nonsense of him asking for one specific thing then buying it!

I won’t bother to get him anything else!

I wouldn't go to the trouble of returning yours, then you have to pick something new. Let him return his after Christmas, he can have the inconvenience!

I am really funny about gifts.

I like it to be a surprise and the recipient not know how much it cost!

He tells his kids how much we are spending on them which I hate.

Ah so he likes the glory of paying for things? How immature.
Stop buying for him would be my suggestion.

No - I have to give him the money!

No you don’t! You’ve spent it on the gift you ordered...

Return what you got him and don't reimburse him for what he's bought himself. Tell him he ruined it, and you'll try again next year.

Arrgh, how annoying. YANBU. I'd still give him the present you bought and tell him it's up to him to return it if he wants the money. Stupid sod shouldn't have gone and bought himself anything until after xmas should he.

To be honest, I wouldn't be too upset. It's just one those things. Irritating, but not a biggie. People aren't perfect, and if he's otherwise a good egg then let it go.

Fear not for good tidings are on thee!, it'll be the 2nd Jan soon and the advent madness will be over for another year.

Praise be Ebenzeer;)

Not quite the same..but I think OH and I have bought each other more or less the same present.

He had an email to say the item was at the sorting office and thought no it's in the hall, then realised the one he had taken delivery of had my name on the parcel.

Yep identical parcels from the same place

😂

Return your gift. Give him a soap on the Rope. Leave the price on

I'm not sure that it means that you can't be trusted, but daft that he didn't ask if you'd ordered it yet as he'd found it at a good price.

Just send his back.

Why would you have to give him the money?

If yours was ordered online and it's a situation of making a phone call to the supplier, slapping a prepaid return label on it, and getting the money back on your card, that's what I'd do. But I wouldn't buy anything else, I'd tell him thanks for doing my job for me, enjoy your 'gift'.

BUT if it means schlepping it back to the store in the middle of the retail madness that is the week before Xmas, then I'd give it to him on Xmas morning along with the receipt and tell him he can return it himself!

ARGH! Had you already bought it? DH likes to request specific things and then will tell me if he has found it somewhere and bought it "but you can wrap it up".

It's fine because he tells me so. I just choose some small surprise present because I think presents should be surprises.