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AIBU?

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Original poster

the icing on the f****** cake

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BrizzleDrizzle · 16/12/2017 07:18

It's been a shit week this week, various reasons but it's not been the finest by a long chalk.

To top it of DD has just been chatting to me about something which she was fascinated by until two days ago. She now tells me that she hates them and she is totally freaked out by them.

Said item is her main Xmas present which I've saved for all year and cost £90. Without it she's got two gifts to open.

AIBU to be bloody pissed off by this?

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Angelicinnocent · 16/12/2017 07:21

Nope, not unreasonable. How old is DD?

Had this happen when DS was little but was easy enough to exchange. Don't think it would be so easy with this years present though.

Bobbiepin · 16/12/2017 07:21

YANBU but it happens. How old is DD? Is there any way you can take it back and buy her something else? There's still time.

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BrizzleDrizzle · 16/12/2017 07:22

She's 13 and really hard to buy for Angry

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TooGood2BeFalse · 16/12/2017 07:24

YANBU to be upset. Give her the gift.She is old enough to be grateful and I'm sure she will love it when it's in front of her.

tiredbutFINE · 16/12/2017 07:25

Any chance you can return it and get vouchers instead? If she’s given to changing her mind it’s a safer bet, but less exciting than a big gift.

LolitaLempicka · 16/12/2017 07:25

She's freaked out today. Tomorrow is another day. 13 year olds are arseholes!

Japanese · 16/12/2017 07:25

What is the present?

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 16/12/2017 07:27

What's the present ?

RitaMills · 16/12/2017 07:28

What is the gift? If it’s really popular I’m sure you’ll get your money back.

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RebootYourEngine · 16/12/2017 07:29

Im intrigued. What is the gift? Why is she 'freaked out' by it?

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/12/2017 07:33

13 and freaked out? eBay/return and give her the cash perhaps?

outofmydepth45 · 16/12/2017 07:33

Sounds very fickle you get what your given in my book

annandale · 16/12/2017 07:34

She might be trying to manage her own emotions - the message being 'don't worry if you haven't bought me x mum, I'll be ok'

Being 13, the output is a bit over the top Grin

BrieAndChilli · 16/12/2017 07:38

I’m trying to think of what would freak out a 13 year old!!!

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BrizzleDrizzle · 16/12/2017 07:40

OK, it's the Meccano Max AI robot. She has always wanted to be an engineer and watched every programme under the sun but deleted two that she'd recorded just now because 'robots freak me out'

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RitaMills · 16/12/2017 07:40

Those generation dolls? Dolls started freaking me out at that age, especially the creepy porcelain ones you thankfully don’t see as much anymore. Do 13 year olds still play with dolls? 🤔

RitaMills · 16/12/2017 07:45

Cross post. I’d still give it to her, she could possible change her mind when she gets it. We got my DS a meccano robot last year, they are fun to build and quite cool once they are up and running. It’s the G15 one, not the cute little digital one you’ve got, the g15 is a bit freaky with its big googly eyes. Confused

BigGreenOlives · 16/12/2017 07:49

It could be she’s been talking to a different group at school & they’ve been rude about robots. Any change in her social group this week?

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/12/2017 07:49

Meccano robot. I’d still give it to her and let her decide if she wants to build it or return it. I’m surprised that it’s freaky to a 13 yo. Maybe as a pp said, she’s trying to tell you it’s ok if you haven’t got it. Or maybe she’s momentarily freaked by something she saw on tv. Either way, I’d imagine she will get over it.

SquatBetty · 16/12/2017 07:53

Not sure what this robot looks like but I'm guessing it's sort of human like? Talk to her about the 'Uncanny valley' hypothesis which might explain her 'freaking out'.

Taffeta · 16/12/2017 07:54

Ignore her! I bought my 11 yo DD some wired Beats EP headphones in the BF sale. A few days later she said “I hope I haven’t been given headphones for Christmas”. I ignored her.

A week later, her existing half-working headphones gave up the ghost. (It wasn’t me!!!Grin)

She’s now “I really hope I’m getting headphones for Christmas”.

Sagethyme · 16/12/2017 07:55

I can understand why they freak out her tbh! But i'm assuming if it's meccano she gets to build it from scratch? In which case the freak factor may be reduced and may help to 'de-freak ' her? Is it something you could build together, and look at it as an engineering project?
I'd be tempted to give it to her with the proviso of when she opens it, if she really doesn't like it, you'll change it/ send it back/ put it on eBay. And get her something else....but I suspect when she opens it she'll enjoy the challenge of building it.

WhatHappenedToSunday · 16/12/2017 08:01

Yearssssss ago I went off something I loved because a boy said he didnt like it :/
Maybe someone made a passing comment. I'd just casually say how much you love her interest in it and ask what changed. Still give her the gift

Lovemusic33 · 16/12/2017 08:25

Check eBay and see what they are selling for. You could always sell it?

My dd2 changes her likes all the time, most years I start to panic as she asks for something totally different a week before Christmas. Now she’s 12 I ask her what she wants at the beginning of December and I warn her that she can not change her mind.