To think someone should have checked up on me?

[IrrelevantPeasant]

Bit of background, 3 DCs, youngest born 14 months ago. After she was born I had a bit of a breakdown, health visitor was adamant I had PPD and that I should go on ADs. Because I knew what had triggered the problem I said I didn’t want ADs but would go to counselling to deal with the issues. I’ve had counselling and was referred on for treatment for PTSD. This was 6 months ago and I’ve got another 6 months to go to see a therapist. Since being referred to a counsellor, not one health professional has asked me if I’m ok or if I’m coping. Not even to check if the other DCs are OK as I was struggling to look after them at one point. Now, everyone is fine and the counselling has helped to a point but after all this AIBU to think that someone should be checking we’re all OK?

They should have checked, but they don't have the time nor the resources. Bloody austerity!

Have you had an appointment with anyone to tell them you’re struggling? They aren’t mind readers so would need you to initiate contact.

Yanbu but they are barely coping with being reactive. They simply don't have the resources to be proactive. Glad to hear things are improving for you.

I guess the question is ru ok?
If yes, then no need to check on you.
If no, then please speak to your HV or GP or self refer to talking therapies. Or find local support groups which will help.
No one can read your mind and if your DC are ok and not at risk the HV will not contact.
Take care

Yanbu but they are so busy not enough resources etc. You have to ring and tell them you want to see them at least I had to anyway. Hope all is well now

Yanbu. All the cuts to public services have a bottom line. Mental health being what it is means people are less likely to seek medical help for themselves. Some don't realise they are spiralling, some stop taking their meds. It's an area desperately under funded and with social services in similar circumstances people are just falling through the cracks.

I think yabu. I wouldn't want to be in a world where we are constantly monitored.

I think you are being unreasonable. If you aren’t ok then you need to tell someone. If you are ok then what’s the issue? aid rather not be watched all the time but if you feel you need to be then ask someone to monitor you.