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To think I might be missing out?

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Kleokat · 04/12/2017 20:33

So about a year ago I decided to delete all of my social media (Facebook, Twitter and instagram)

There were lots of reasons I decided to do it ànd felt really refreshed afterwards, haven't really missed it.

But I have realised that since I got rid of it all my interaction with people has decreased massively! I have no idea about anything going on locally or with people who I know. Nobody knows anything going on with me. I'm not in contact with anyone at all expect for about 4 very close friends.

Am I massively missing out? Am I limiting my friendships by not having any of this?

Or should I stick to my guns knowing why I decided to get rid of it all?

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BehindLockNumberNine · 04/12/2017 20:38

Following this tread. I have requested for my fb account to be deleted. Several times.
I keep going back in before the 14 days is up. But then regret doing so as it is the same old drivel.
I am really undecided about deleting. Even more so having read your op....

Allthewaves · 04/12/2017 20:42

I have fb. It's handy. Just check it once a week

overnightangel · 04/12/2017 20:45

Deleted Facebook 4 or 5 years ago, don’t miss it in the slightest.
Got whatsapp groups so I keep up to date with any meet ups or important news of friends etc, no longer being on it has had zero effect on my social life and wouldn’t go back on it if you paid me.

Starlighter · 04/12/2017 20:49

I don’t do Twitter or Instagram but I find Facebook really useful, especially for local events, stuff to do with the kids, recommendations for things, etc.

It’s also good for keeping in touch with people. I don’t go on it every day but it’s handy to have.

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Kleokat · 04/12/2017 20:53

One of the reasons I deleted it was that I would check it about once every 15 minutes. I just don't seems to be able to only check it once a week or even once a day! It kind of took over my life in a way and it became a very negative thing for me. Looking at other people who had things I didn't have or did things I couldn't do and feeling constantly crap about myself. I don't want to fall back into that.

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SantaStuckInTheChimney · 04/12/2017 20:54

I'm always thinking about deleting my Facebook. The way I look at it- why do you need to know things about people that aren't really your friends (other than to be nosy)? And if people are really your friends, they shouldn't need to find things about you on Facebook, they should know those things already because you always talk privately? I understand that people find it easier to announce things on Facebook, but it means that hundreds of other people find out too.

I use Twitter to see celebrity tweets and also see funny and viral tweetsBlush. I use Instagram usually for food-related posts. I won't be deleting those two.

SantaStuckInTheChimney · 04/12/2017 20:55

I think you made the right decision to delete it OP. You sound like you're more relaxed now. Just make sure you keep talking to your friends and then you won't miss out. Friends won't stop being your friends because you've deleted your Facebook.

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Kleokat · 04/12/2017 21:06

I suppose it just goes to show that the majority of "freinds" on social media arent really freinds. The last year had showed me who my friends are and I am happy about that. No more time wasted on people who arent worth my time.

Also no more doing things or taking pictures just to put online for everyone to see! Or pretneding to have a much more exciting life!

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HarryHarry · 04/12/2017 21:54

I deleted my FB then opened a new one but unfollowed everyone in my friend list so I don't have to scroll through loads of crap. It's just a blank page now, which means that I don't feel the need to go on there unless I want to contact someone or reply to someone who has contacted me. I can also choose to look at the New Posts tab to see particular friends' news if I want to. It is much, much better this way.

ByThePowerOfRa · 04/12/2017 21:59

I gave up Facebook about 18 months ago and don’t miss it at all. Actual friends stay in touch with me via WhatsApp groups, in person, phone or text. The people I no longer see or hear from because I’m no longer on Facebook are probably more like acquaintances.

The only thing which irks me is that some organisations’ only online presence is on Facebook. For example, my dd’s nursery puts pictures up on a private Facebook group which I only see because Dh is on there.

stevie69 · 04/12/2017 22:01

You're missing sweet FA. Absolutely. Fucking. Nothing. Sorry about the language Blush

Don't go back. Ever!

Wide0penSpace · 04/12/2017 22:35

I was scrolling through Facebook earlier thinking that it all seems to be bloody adverts now. I think I've liked too many pages. It is handy for finding out about local events though.

Coastalcommand · 05/12/2017 00:00

Surely it depends on your friends? I don't understand the negativity about Facebook, but I only have people on there that I like.

CheeriosEverywhere · 05/12/2017 00:09

It's an odd question to ask. You say your interaction with people is now far more limited, you only talk to a handful of people and you aren't connected to local events etc.
But then you ask if you are missing out.....nobody but you can answer that! If you feel you are missing out then you are, if you are happier without it then you are not.
It isn't a question MN can answer for you, people can only tell you how they might feel about it.

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