Asking for a charity donation?

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Wondering if I have unwittingly made a faux pas.

I gave away a couple of free items on a local Facebook group. Good used condition, and would cost in excess of £50 new.

I asked if the collector would be willing to make an optional small donation, which I would give a to a charity close to my heart. This was in a message prior to collection. No reply, and then no thank you on collection. Not making a donation is fine, but not saying thank you seems off.

Overall, I feel a bit miffed. Aibu?

See this is a difficult one. You've offered to give something away and then you've attached a possible condition to it.

Was it a charity you had chosen? Again the person you're giving the item to may not support that charity.

Personally if I went to pick up an item and someone asked me for a donation I'd say no as well - especially if the request was foist upon me by someone i didn't know

Also YANBU about saying thank you because it's basic manners

Yes, it was a charity of my choosing. Not one that would be controversial in any way though.

Fair point, though she had the option of not collecting if my request offended her.

You can’t give things always for free then ask for a donation? She doesn’t know your not gonna keep the money? How does she know your gonna give it to a charity. So I’m afraid you were the unreasonable one...

I suppose some one could be a bit put out. Offering something for free but then suggesting charity donation. Thats not the deal. I now tend to put stuff on ebay for a quid witb 100 percent going to Shelter. Gave up with free cycle. Or ive done stuff at work, eg taken a stack of paperbacks in and suggested a 50p donation in the company charity tin . I think its best to be clear, you sent a mixed message. Thank you is always free though!

You should have just sold it then given the money to charity. She could have said thanks though.

Ok, I realise I have made an error here.

I'll sell for a nominal amount next time and give to charity.