To feel weird about my abortion

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It was 4 years ago tomorrow. Best decision but - i still wonder if it was a boy or girl.

I think how you feel is entirely normal.

for you. It must've been tough

Yanbu I've never had one but I would imagine it's normal to wonder.

Mine was nearly 4 years ago now too, I still think about what age they'd be now and how they'd fit in with my life etc etc. Mine was definitely tight decision too at time but I do still wonder and feel sad sometimes.

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Also, I had a miscarriage and opted for medical managment with misoprostol which I believe is the same drug used in abortions. It was horrificly painful and distressing both physically and emotionally and I have a deeper empathy for anyone who goes through an abortion or a miscarriage because it can be so deeply painful

Mine were 7 years ago.. I have maybe thought of them a handful of times in that time. I have no regrets as I was so young, and wouldn’t have the children I have now. It is a weird feeling though, imagining them..

Mine didn't hurt at all. I was confused and disorientated but fine. Barely any bleeding, even.

Yadnbu although I have always been happy with the decision made I often think to myself about how old child would have been and whether it was a boy or girl.

Yadnbu, I think it's normal to wonder, even if you know you made the right decision at the time

Mine was 12 years ago. Every so often I do wonder.

I wonder now and then, and mine was over 10 years ago. Definitely the right decision, same as you