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Original poster

To think this is something you just don't lie about

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Misspollyhadadollie · 18/10/2017 23:03

So I can across my exes pof account and apparently he doesn't have children! (He has 5) is it just me or is this a something you just don't lie about?!

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 18/10/2017 23:06

He's hoping he'll get a shag on the first night and not see them again, isn't he? He clearly thinks he can get away without getting to the stage where you talk about kids.

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Misspollyhadadollie · 18/10/2017 23:09

That's true! He's also "self employed" he isn't as he doesn't work. Just think it's cheeky. Obviously thinks it will put people off.

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OhShit2017 · 18/10/2017 23:19

Man lies on POF shocker 😂

Fast coming to the conclusion that there is no such thing as an honest, straightforward man when it comes to OLD.

Ethylred · 18/10/2017 23:19

Ok I'll bite.

What can you lie about on PoF? Is there an official MN list of good lies and bad lies? Does it depend on how naughty the website is?

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Misspollyhadadollie · 18/10/2017 23:21

Isn't it like denying your kids though surely? So how do you explain to your new gf you not only have one child you have 5? Do most women stick around after finding that out? (He has 4 children with me one with a previous)

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 18/10/2017 23:27

Let's hope he's not persuading some woman that he can't have children.

PortiaCastis · 18/10/2017 23:27

PoF is shag united I doubt any man tells the truth on there, I've tried OLD as I'm single and have come across some awful twats. If they say they're 40 they're probably 60, if they say they're lonely they're after a quick knee trembler. So I never believe any of their bs and have given up

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Misspollyhadadollie · 18/10/2017 23:31

I'm not on pof myself my friend saw him on there. So lying is basically normal on there then lol

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FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 18/10/2017 23:40

To be fair, women are always told not to mention their DCs on online dating profiles in case they attract wrong 'uns.

When looking for someone to date, you don't necessarily want them to become a long term partner or have anything to do with your kids.

That's the sort of thing you can talk about if things get serious - if a woman decides further down the line that 5 step-kids is not for her, (or a man who would lie about having them is not for her) that's her choice.

Just as someone who says they're 6 foot tall and arrives looking like Dustin Hoffman, she would be welcome to pass.

Don't worry yourself about it OP, online dating is full of bullshitters and your ex won't be the last.

Dingdongdigeridoo · 19/10/2017 07:42

A friend who does a lot of online dating told me POF is the scummiest of dating sites. If you ever read about a guy secretly having three wives or murdering someone on a date, it’s always someone from POF.

sooperdooper · 19/10/2017 07:46

I'd be more shocked if anyone had a truthful profile on Pof tbh, it's full of people who just want a shag

Trills · 19/10/2017 08:14

I wouldn't have a relationship with someone who'd lied about whether they have children.

But I would expect there to be a fair few people telling that kind of lie on dating sites.

GrapesAreMyJam · 19/10/2017 08:20

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Misspollyhadadollie · 19/10/2017 11:42

But surely it's unfair to the people you meet as some people don't want to date people with kids so it's best to be honest from the start IMO. I doubt he's lying to not attract wrong uns lol

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Birdsgottafly · 19/10/2017 11:45

Well he isn't looking for a relationship, which makes your life easier because he isn't going to rock up with his latest wanting to play happy families.

VladmirsPoutine · 19/10/2017 11:51

PoF is a glorified cesspit tbh. That said I think you need to keep your nose out. Men and indeed women lie all the time on their online dating profiles.

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Misspollyhadadollie · 19/10/2017 11:53

I'm not planning on saying anything lol don't want him to know I've seen.

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PinkHeart5914 · 19/10/2017 11:53

People lie on online dating Shock My friend does it and she claims to be 5 years younger

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Misspollyhadadollie · 19/10/2017 11:55

Honestly do they just admit then truth then and be like "sorry I lied!" lol must just be me that thinks it's not ok

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CockacidalManiac · 19/10/2017 11:57

I met my current partner on POF. It’s no worse than any other site.

x2boys · 19/10/2017 11:58

Ah well that's why he is an ex Op !

puddingpen · 19/10/2017 12:16

I met my lovely partner on POF. I think people on Tinder were worse.

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Misspollyhadadollie · 19/10/2017 12:22

I heard tinder is worse but I couldn't do either tbh if lying is so common on there lol

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Viviennemary · 19/10/2017 12:24

People have always lied in relationships even before days of the internet. But the internet certainly makes it much easier. Shock at the murderers on pof. But hardly something anybody's going to admit to on a dating site or even in real life I suppose. It might attract undesireables.

Alloftheboys · 19/10/2017 12:25

Ha ha met my partner of a number of years on POF. he wasn't lying about anything.

However one guy got shirty with me when I first started. I couldn't log in for a few days so hadn't replied to his message. He sent something along the lines of "you girls from (my hometown) are so stuck up you're all the same". Not sure how he was going to be successful with a bad attitude like that!