AIBU to think he's having an affair?

[SusieBa]

Right. Am I over thinking this? We're both 39 and been together 10 years. After two month break from sex (not unusual!) he's suddenly transformed. When we did have sex it is/was mostly enjoyable, but (until this month) it was never WOW. i should probably be enjoying this but just can't stop thinking that maybe he's with/been with someone else? Anyone similar experience? Found no evidence but haven't snooped

New techniques or new enthusiasm?

Techniques

Porn?

I thought porn too.

He's either been doing some reading, picked something up from porn or is having an affair.

If you have no gut feeling or suspicion of an affair, I'd say the reading one.

I'm male & got a similar reaction when I launched into a Venus butterfly, with my then wife. She was suspicious as to where it had come from but, I read up about it & wanted to surprise her.

If you have no reason to doubt him, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt

Thanks. Feel a bit better about it this morning. But if it's porn, reading etc then why wait 10 years??? It's not like the Internet was just invented?

Variety is the spice of life. A happier you, will mean a happier him

Maybe after being together 10 years he felt like things needed to be spiced up? Could just of been board of the same old

Tell him it's the best sex ever and see what he says

I'm male & got a similar reaction when I launched into a Venus butterfly, with my then wife

I will admit to being quite intrigued.

Is it very athletic though? 😬

Could be a surge of hormones.

Hi Very, not at all. It was a Venus caterpillar, the week before

of my husband launched into a "Venus butterfly" with me, I'd be more concerned about breaking my neck than proof of infidelity

Tell me I'm not the only one who just googled Venus Butterfly!!

Ok, I'll bite - what is a Venus butterfly?! I'm trying to use my imagination and not getting anywhere...

So what is it and how do I get my DH to do it if I like the sound of it?

I've googled it!! Yup, Very nice.

DH does that anyway Who knew there was a name for it? Maybe he's been watching porn too...

oh my. May have to suggest that one.

Wow! Just googled it.

Porn prob

I just read the Venus butterfly technique, what a rigmarole that sounds. Jeez.