To not let my friend stay in my house for £30 a week

[Thisismyusername1989]

He's a bit of a spoilt princess. He's found himself in a position where he won't be starting his new job until first September and will be leaving his job on Friday.

He's got a job in the meantime as bank staff and it is 10 miles form my house.

His home is 40 minutes drive away so he has informed me he will be staying at mine for three weeks and will give me £30 a week.

He'd have to just sleep on the sofa as I have only two bedrooms and have two children who have a bunk bed.

He says he doesn't mind.

I haven't agreed yet but he's just presumed. He text me the time he will be arriving.

AIBU to say no or do you think that would be a bit mean? I'd probably do it for £50 but £30 would only cover his electric and food!

Tell him no. And do it now. Don't let people walk all over you. He didn't even ask, just told you. Don't do it.

Say no, how cheeky and rude of him.

I wouldn't let him stay, a 40 minute drive is nothing.

Just tell him. Sorry but unless you getting your food that is not enough.

And he might take liberties and stay a bit longer, and you will have a hell getting rid of him. Say no now, or you will regret it later.

Er, nope! 40 minutes is not that long, I'd be telling him he could just stay at home and commute, like a normal person.

So it's a 50 minute commute each way for him? Why on earth does he need to stay at yours, that's quite a normal commute.

Say no. £30 won't cover his food and drink let alone anything else and the inconvenience.

And mean it.

So tell him how much you'll need.

It's very odd that he thinks he can just announce his intentions to kip on your sofa without so much of a by your leave.

But if you're prepare to overlook the above, and are confident he will pay up and on time, fire on.

Very cheeky. And inconvenient for you. Tell him you will do it for £60 a week, if that includes food he will still be doing well out of it and you will make a profit. Unless you really don't want to, in which case don't!!

Tell him to use the £30 for his travel HOME as you are pushed for space as it is. .

I would charge him £50 and tell him to buy his own food and drink!

Yes you would be an absolute fool to agree with this, and if you do agree with it, he saw you coming.

It's not mean at all.

And anyone who 'tells' me they're staying at mine wouldn't ever step through my front door again.

Why do you want to indulge this spoilt prince. Coz he sounds like a twat.

You can tell the kind of person he is by the way he's acting. He thinks he'll save a lot of money staying with you. What's in it for you? I wouldn't do it for £50 - I wouldn't do it for anything. Just say no.

40 minutes is a tiny commute- he is being ridiculous. Tell him to take a hike!

Tell him it doesn't work for you. Otherwise you will be making a rod for your own back (and be losing out financially on the deal).

I would not have him at all, he is the type to mess op about, not pay, and overstay his welcome. Best set the pace now.

no is the answer. someone and their belongings cluttering up your sitting room every night? you wouldn't be able to have friends around in the evening because that would mean he couldn't get to bed when he wanted, unless you are happy with the thought of him yawning heavily and changing into his jimjams to drop the hint he was sleepY.

would he be staying over at the weekends? what about the bathroom rush in the morning?

Google a few local hotels and tell him you will be matching their room rates less 10% .

He's just presumed?!

Then that for me would make it a NO. This person is a user, not a friend. But that's spoilt princesses for you. And the £30 is supposed to cover FOOD too?!

'Sorry Princess, I've had a think and it's not going to work for either me or the children, there just isn't enough space. Also, £30? I'm assuming you have no idea of the cost of gas, electricity as well as food? Even if we had the space, the minimum this would effectively cost me is £75 a week to cover one extra person. For that it would certainly be cheaper to commute and then you wouldn't end up being woken every morning at 6 for cartoons which would DEFINITELY be the case in our sittign room!'

no, that doesn't work for me.

Next week DH is moving in with our friends due to work and relocating not quite lining up. We're paying £65 a week and expect that to cover use of the room and contribution to bills only. He will be buying his own food and doing everything for himself, and we fully plan to buy them a huge treat when he moves out as well as a v generous present for their upcoming wedding.

Um if this is how he is before he's even moved in, I wouldn't touch his 'kind offer' for £100! He'll treat the place like a hotel and you like his personal maid.

He said I will stay at yours if that okay. I will arrive (xxx date and time).

So half asked.
He's not asking to stay for free at least. I don't know if it's a bit stingy not to let him. Sorry it's a 60 minute drive from where he actually
Lives.

£30 would cover the electric and gas. I presume he'd pay for some food as well as that. He'd only be eating an evening meal. I'd break even certainly but it seems a small amount to offer. I'd personally
Offer £50 in that circumstance.

Certainly not unreasonable to say no. Given the way he has behaved, I wouldn't be at all surprised if the £30 never materialised, and if he was still wanting to stay after the three weeks are up.