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AIBU?

Friend ?!?

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 21:49

Apologies first it's a long one!
I moved to a new area nearly two years ago, I was lucky that I made a friend at a toddler session. We ended up going out on trips, couples occasional nights out and went skiing together this past winter (our first time, I beat my fear and learnt to ski, hell yeah! As a 45 yr old!!) After the holiday contact stopped... I can't think what could have happened on the holiday that could have caused this. There was the usual toddler issues but nothing mega.

Our kids ( same age, boy and my girl) went to the same swimming class. Message from her she's changed it, not telling me what day she's changed it too (like I'd care?!). All suggestions from me as to activities ignored or refused/ already booked. There was some conflict between our kids, there boy kept getting into my daughters face roaring etc.. but nothing mega.
I did message saying we never catch up anymore is everything alright? She replied that she was ill (please bare in mind this was 3 months later of being ignored and me going a bit crazy as to why I'm being ignored and what have I done??) her illness was new. Previously she'd been training for a triathlon and encouraging me to start running . I didn't as I had a horrendous chest infection after the skiing holiday and am more a bike fanatic than a runner! Think she may have took this personally. Ah fuck it I could go on but am now being ignored by bint I met in our village. Just writing this has bored me. I am confused. I personally think she's a bit mad, jealous . I salute you for getting to the end!

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SoleBizzz · 20/06/2017 21:51

Leave it. I feel you have done everything you can to get her to resume the friendship. Stuff her.. Delete her number. X

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BusyBeez99 · 20/06/2017 21:54

Am afraid you've been ghosted. Happens to the best of us. You probably will never know what happened

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MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 20/06/2017 21:55

Given the way you talk, I'd say it may be you that has an issue and her side may be very different.

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mummymummums · 20/06/2017 21:57

How did you deal with her son getting in your daughter's face? People can be funny if it doesn't match how they thought it should be dealt with.

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HildaOg · 20/06/2017 21:59

It may be the kids not getting along or it may be nothing personal at all. She could have her own issues that's making her avoid you.

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Supersoaryflappypigeon · 20/06/2017 22:01

Well I hope you didn't call her a bint to her face Hmm

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Maudlinmaud · 20/06/2017 22:02

Ah you sound a bit frazzled op. I'm picking up an attitude but maybe that's because you are pissed off at the way your friend has treated you.

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Supersoaryflappypigeon · 20/06/2017 22:02

But yes, let it go. It happens. It's shit but she obviously didn't value the friendship.

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 22:04

I am over the angst but what has riled me today is my hubsta is now being ghosted by her hubby on bike rides, wtf?! I give up, were a normal couple, kids fight, get on, play together I'm pretty easy going. I certainly didn't try to tell her boy to back off, believe me she shouted enough.

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 22:05

Ha ha no bint to the face, just the geordie in me!

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Supersoaryflappypigeon · 20/06/2017 22:06

Grin
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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 22:13

Now my hubby is paranoid this will get back?! Is Scotland such a small community !

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Maudlinmaud · 20/06/2017 22:14

So you're a Geordie living in Scotland. Yes there's a good chance you may be recognised from your posts

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 22:16

Maud, bums!!

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MyPatronusIsAUnicorn · 20/06/2017 22:20

Hubsta?! YABVU.

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 22:24

My patronus? Ha ha ha πŸ™ˆπŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆπŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆI have a husband yup? Is that unusual ?!

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Serialweightwatcher · 20/06/2017 22:28

It's not fair - you need to ask her directly why all this has happened since ... tell her you can't try to make it right without a clue. If she isn't interested in telling you/waffles shitty excuses/tells you you're paranoid, by all means then let her know she's a stupid bint and you're glad to be without her in your life - sorry OP but we live amongst many, many arseholes Flowers

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Bunnyfuller · 20/06/2017 22:33

Maybe the holiday was just too much? I know I am incapable of spending 2 weeks with another family, and by day 2 they'd irritate the life out of me and I would very soon just go off them completely. Habits, preferences, bedtimes, mealtimes etc. I'd be gritting my teeth and counting the hours. And yes, it would kill the friendship and it's a hard one to say to someone. Not excusing it, but having a few times tried a couple of days with other families.....never again!

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quizqueen · 20/06/2017 22:34

After being together for a whole week's holiday she may have just realised that you are not her type.

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JaneEyre70 · 20/06/2017 22:35

Clearly something happened on the holiday. Can you not honestly think of something that may have caused offence ie not helping cook, wash up.....shared costs fairly?? Anyone who falls out with you over something the kids did isn't that great a friend in the first place tbh. The kids will have forgotten about it the next day!

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notthebackdoordear · 20/06/2017 22:42

Download an app called MUSH and meet new mums, there are some lovely people out there but there are some right rotters too! Don't be put off xxxxx CakeCakeCakeCakeCake

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Sophiealice95 · 20/06/2017 22:44

Did your dh flirt or come on to her? Is your dh suggestive in his speech toward women? You may not even notice he does this op. I say this because I can't stand this in men and I have ghosted a friend whose dh is like this he is disgusting and makes my flesh crawl. Or does her dh fancy you? She could be jealous Just a thought no offence meant.

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fannydaggerz · 20/06/2017 22:45

Scotlands a big place, I doubt anyone will know who you are.

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Atenco · 20/06/2017 22:48

Holidays are a real test. I went on holiday with my sister once and it took us six months to forgive each other.

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Cavamysaviour · 20/06/2017 23:06

We had a catered ski chalet, no cooking, cleaning or anything. I don't believe I've done any thing wrong, I believe I'm being ghosted πŸ‘» and it's shit. People are just crap sometimes πŸ˜•

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