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Original poster

To ask mate if her DH can get us backstage tickets?

33 replies

PhuqIt · 30/05/2017 15:21

My good mates DH is in a band who is playing pyramid stage at Glastonbury. I don't know him well but he came to our wedding and we went to theirs so met him a couple of times.

Would it be cuntish to ask mate if her DH can get us backstage?

OP posts:
SandyDenny · 30/05/2017 15:25

Yes, definitely wrong in my opinion

givemethecake · 30/05/2017 15:26

Yes.

Sparklingbrook · 30/05/2017 15:26

Bit cringey. Why do you want to go backstage? Is anyone even allowed backstage re security etc.

Oakmaiden · 30/05/2017 15:26

I'd ask. They may well say no, but where is the harm?

Can't see why it would be "definitely wrong"...

Floralnomad · 30/05/2017 15:28

Absolutely not , I used to know someone whos dh worked with Take That and she said he was sick to death of people trying to use him to get autographs and concert tickets . If they wanted you to have a pass they would approach you.

glitterglitters · 30/05/2017 15:28

You can ask but it's not particularly exciting back there.

My db works in the industry and has for me backstage for a few things and I've worked a few festivals in press, odd few free drinks and saw Howard Marks almost crash a golf cart but it's definitely not anything special.

FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 30/05/2017 15:28

Are you and your mate already planning on going together/do you usually go together? If so, then it's not so bad.

FishInAWetSuitAndFlippers · 30/05/2017 15:28

He probably has millions of people asking him. You'll be putting him in a really awkward position.

glitterglitters · 30/05/2017 15:29

Also my df's sister played Glastonbury and her own family couldn't even get tickets let alone backstage.

Thisnamechanger · 30/05/2017 15:31

We get asked for this kind of thing all the time in the entertainment industry, personally doesn't bother me!

LightDrizzle · 30/05/2017 15:31

A second "Yes!" I'm afraid.
How many people would you guess have the same level of connection with this man? My guess is hundreds, via friend's, family and profession.

IF he has access to backstage passes, they are a very, very precious commodity, why would he share that fortune with the most distant of acquaintances? You would be a twat to ask.

NemosKnickers · 30/05/2017 15:31

No, not on. My DH gets these requests all the time and yes, Glasto is much more limited than other gigs. My DH gets a plus one (me) then and if anyone else's partners aren't going then they can offer them out to friends.

If you don't even know him then it's really cheeky and I would not be impressed.

LightDrizzle · 30/05/2017 15:33

"friends" not "friend's"

BarbaraofSeville · 30/05/2017 15:35

Expect that it will be impossible in the current climate. DP works in the festival industry and security was crazy this weekend at the event he was working on - due to last Monday's unfortunate events, they had to arrange a load of extra ID and security checks at the last minute.

They won't want extra people cluttering up the backstage area and they don't generally issue the passes that allow access unless you are working or performing. When I went to the Leeds Festival with him a couple of years ago I got access to some areas and there was a Metallica fan club tour that went on one of the stages but I wouldn't be surprised if they've stopped that sort of thing - too risky.

NemosKnickers · 30/05/2017 15:35

and yes, it's not 'back stage', it's guest list/hospitality. You don't actally get to dressing rooms/stage areas!

Depending on the artist you might still have to pay for these tickets (and it's not cheap).

hollowstone · 30/05/2017 15:35

I'm cringing for you OP.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/05/2017 15:50

I have been backstage at Glasto many times and the only reason is the better toilets. It's boring, business wankers wall to wall and much less fun than the outside area.

You need an AAA pass anyway to get near anyone fun. And even then, honestly, you'd be an arsehole to approach anyone.

queenofthemountains · 30/05/2017 15:53

Of course you should ask, just for the toilets if anything.

Original poster
PhuqIt · 30/05/2017 16:03

Just to be clear we already have tickets for Glastonbury, we go every year. DH just wondered if we could get to see backstage during the day. My friend on the other hand, isn't even going! I won't ask 😁

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FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 30/05/2017 16:08

Yes, if your friend isn't going with you, definitely don't ask!

Flipsticks · 30/05/2017 16:15

I used to work in venue management and I would say please don't ask! I used to get requests from friends for this type of thing and it is annoying just because it does happen a lot, especially from people you haven't heard from in ages.
And to echo what the pp said, he won't be able to get you an aaa badge, it would be a corporate/ VIP pass these don't get you anywhere exciting anyway!
Enjoy Glastonbury Smile

sparechange · 30/05/2017 16:22

The ONLY acceptable thing would be to say 'it would be great to meet you for a drink at some point while you are there' and hope there is a slim chance he will say 'great idea, I'll see if I can get you backstage'

Because the bars and loos backstage are much quieter and nicer (although you still have to buy your own drinks at Festival prices. It isn't free...)

But you won't see loads of celebs sitting around, it is mostly BBC crew, roadies and events people

silkpyjamasallday · 30/05/2017 16:53

You can ask, but it is cheeky and at Glastonbury you won't be allowed backstage. My friend used to date a guy in a very well known band who were playing the pyramid stage at Glastonbury and he couldn't get her a 'backstage' pass as he only had one and given it to his mate, she did stay with him in a nicer bit of the camping area but that was it. He isn't going to waste his one pass on vague acquaintances.

Sunshinegirls · 30/05/2017 16:57

Nothing ventured nothing gained! No harm in asking, as long as a refusal doesn't offend.

NeverTwerkNaked · 30/05/2017 17:03

I wouldn't ask; it would just make things awkward.

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