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Porn vs. Cheating in relationships

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TodayIAmMe · 27/05/2017 16:08

So, I have a really big problem with internet porn [I am talking the free stuff, that's easily accessible]: everything about it - I abhor it and can not get my head around why anyone would watch it due to the fact it is largely unregulated, often using women who have been forced or coerced, hugely glorified for the unsafe sexual practices [such as bare back] and often with women / girls who are much younger than they appear, or with searchers for women and girls who's appearance is much younger than reality.

It's a definite "no go" in my relationships. On the other hand, I wouldn't feel that my partner having consensual sex with another adult human being who he had formed a relationship with [however long they had known each other] as a LTB situation.

Am I completely fucked in the head? I haven't really explored this in real-life situations because coworkers and friends were so "livid on my behalf" when an ex slept with someone else, was fully open about it after the event and showed remorse, yet they very much take the view of "It's only a little bit of porn now and again" so often and so openly.

(I should probably add that I was severely sexually abused as a child and that it wasn't by one person exclusively and so this may be why my views are this way; but I generally would like to know if my thought process is way off normality).

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Fiona1984 · 28/05/2017 09:47

Without touching on the moral aspect, I had an ex who would rather watch porn or look at pictures than be intimate with me. He even actually said to me 'it's too much effort'. I don't know how i lasted so long in that relationship TBH.

TheNaze73 · 28/05/2017 09:51

I think it's down to the individual.

araiwa · 28/05/2017 10:11

you can have whatever rules you want in a relationship... its entirely up to you

however, depending on your rules you may find it hard to start or keep relationships

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