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To be upset about my pelvic floor 😩

42 replies

IndiaGrace · 22/04/2017 22:09

I have a two year old, born by c section after failed forceps. I'm 28 weeks pregnant with DC2 and suddenly my pelvic floor is a disaster. I mean it was definitely a bit weaker after DD but never like this 😩

I have just sneezed and had to change my pj bottoms.

I have a cough just now and have to cross my legs at work.

I'm fucking 30. It is surely not normal for 30 year olds to wear fucking Tena 😐

OP posts:
Sunnyjac · 22/04/2017 22:18

Had three, can't run downhill without a little leakage. Men have no clue 🙄💐

Winniethepooer · 22/04/2017 22:18

Its very very common but still a taboo subject.

I would request a referal to an obstetric physiotherapist.

Wishing you a happy & pee free pregnancy!

Steviea88 · 22/04/2017 22:20

I have 2 and literally piss myself a little bit quite a lot. Sometimes I can't even feel it coming out Confused I'm 27 and I did pelvic floor excercises whilst pregnant and still now- it's not helping!

Crumbs1 · 22/04/2017 22:25

Absolutely no need to suffer. Plenty of effective treatments- make a GP appointment.

froofroomcgoo · 22/04/2017 22:27

I feel you. Forceps delivery with DS caused nerve damage and incontinence. It's shit!

Fl0ellafunbags · 22/04/2017 22:36

I can go easily eight hours without a wee. I just don't feel the need. But the minute I get the urge I have to go immediately. There have been unfortunate incidents.
Both my children were completely sections so minimal pelvic floor damage, it's just that I don't get the message until it's too late

JonSnowsWhore · 22/04/2017 22:50

Think the Drs will just say that's pregnancy for you tbh. I've had the same for about 2-3 months now, I'm 33 weeks. Hoping it'll go back to 'normal' whatever that is, once baby is born but if not then I'll go to the Drs, as there's not much they can do while we're pregnant Sad

Morphene · 22/04/2017 22:51

depends on your definition of 'normal'. It certainly isn't rare!

Crumbs1 · 22/04/2017 23:25

Sorry I misread - I thought you were postpartum. Baby pressing on bladder is uncomfortable.

gamerchick · 22/04/2017 23:27

But you're doing your exercises every day right?

As soon as you have one baby we have to do our exercises every day for the rest of our lives. Drummed into me that one was.

yerbutnobut · 23/04/2017 08:14

yup, weak pelvic floor after kids has ruined any prospects of ever going on a trampoline again!

Sweetpotatoaddict · 23/04/2017 08:19

Op, Don't panic! Mine was the same during my 2nd pregnancy, cs with dc1. Vbac with dc2. Incontinence has now gone and can even trampoline. Lots of pelvic floor muscles and it's fine. Now the rest of me is another story Grin

Cammysmoma · 23/04/2017 08:21

I'm 24 and a trampoline is a definite no go and I done my PF exercises haha

reallyneedmoresleep · 23/04/2017 08:30

I think its really important that people talk about this and that you get the help you need.
Having babies wrecks your pelvic floor but exercises can really help.
I've been seeing a women's physio because I couldn't run without wetting myself. There's been a massive improvement. I've also had to cut down on certain foods (no longer have 9/10 coffees a day) but again, its really made a difference.
I totally recommend the squeezy app for your phone which explains how to do your pelvic floor exercises and reminds you to do them three times a day.
Next life, I'm going to be a man

Sweetpotatoaddict · 23/04/2017 08:57

Completely agree really caffeine is disasterous for continence, I've cut out caffeine which has definitely made a huge difference.

1Evaline1 · 23/04/2017 09:04

I'm 26 with one dc who is 2 years old and my pelvic floor has it's off and on days but I do try to do the exercises more and they certainly help.

Over time I need to lose about 4 stone so I think that will also help my pelvic floor etc. But I do wear something similar to Tena just a bit thinner each day just in case,and I don't care I don't see why using them is a problem really.

Chattycat78 · 23/04/2017 09:06

Hearing this. I had a vicious Forcep delivery for ds1 which caused a mild prolapse. Didn't really feel the effects of it until I had hyperemesis when I was pregnant with ds2. I would wet myself when I vomited.Sad

It's not as bad now- but I did have some moreissues after ds2 was born even though he was a planned section. Went to the gp and got referred for physio. Exercises are the main solution I'm afraid. Sad

No one talks About this stuff.

CrohnicallyPregnant · 23/04/2017 09:08

I'm 36 weeks with number 2 (number 1 was a section) and I was doing so well till I got a cold... at least you can still cross your legs, I have to make do with squeezing my thighs together because I'm too big to cross my legs!

I spoke to the midwife who says pelvic floor exercises should help, but I'm not holding out much hope until this baby's out. In the meantime, Tena (or the generic equivalent) it is.

itoldyouyouwouldntlikeit · 23/04/2017 09:11

There are various exercises that can help. Loads on you tube. I did the holistic core restore. If I stop doing them my prolapse reappears so they clearly help in my case :-)

MrsBellefleur · 23/04/2017 09:14

I had to wear Tena type towels during my second pregnancy. Now the baby's out and I'm 5 weeks post partum it's much better thank god! Baby pressing on your bladder is not fun.

StarlingMurderation · 23/04/2017 09:23

Thanks for the app rec, needsmore. I've just downloaded it - I do my exercises when I remember but frequently it slips my mind.

reallyneedmoresleep · 23/04/2017 09:27

The app is great, although my sons are all very curious about the reminders that pop up on my phone. What's this game? Can I play it? Errr...

allegretto · 23/04/2017 09:28

This is not something you should have to put up with. Only in a very few cases can nothing be done to improve the situation. Definitely speak to your doctor!

Pigface1 · 23/04/2017 09:28

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/nov/02/french-mothers-bladder-incontinence-nadia-sawalha

It seems there are effective treatments available for incontinence (possibly post-parting, though). It makes me cross that British mums seem encouraged to accept it!

Pigface1 · 23/04/2017 09:29

Post-partum - damn autocorrect