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AIBU to delay baby's 1st birthday 24 hours

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wigglewam · 07/04/2017 23:14

My DH will be away on an unavoidable work trip on our DC 1st birthday. He gets back late that night. AIBU to delay celebrating and giving presents until the next day so DH can share the day?

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MaudGonneMad · 07/04/2017 23:15

I don't think your DC will notice.

giraffesCantReachTheirToes · 07/04/2017 23:16

Yarburgh

giraffesCantReachTheirToes · 07/04/2017 23:16

Bloody predictive text. Yanbu

fatmummy87 · 07/04/2017 23:17

I don't think the baby will care Wink
I start back work on my dcs first birthday and he will be in nursery all day Blush

wobblywonderwoman · 07/04/2017 23:17

Of course delay it.. No question.

AnathemaPulsifer · 07/04/2017 23:18

YADNBU!

Porpoiselife · 07/04/2017 23:19

Yanbu. I've done it before. Our 1 year old didn't notice.

Rescuepuppydaft2 · 07/04/2017 23:31

Absolutely not! My dh was working away a lot when my two were little, so when they were between the ages of 1 and 3, I would delay or bring forward their birthdays so dh could join in the celebrations.

Jellybean85 · 07/04/2017 23:38

Yarburgh Grin
But no yanbu, wait for sh, baby will never know Cake

Kpo58 · 07/04/2017 23:44

My DD will be at nursery when she turns one on Tuesday. I still haven't planned what to do for it, but there are at least some presents to be wrapped.

Jaagojaago · 07/04/2017 23:45

This is something you really need to check with your DC - it's their birthday their call.

Oh wait.

Hmm
TyneTeas · 07/04/2017 23:46

Absolutely fine.

My teenaged DD still does not know her 1st birthday shifted almost a week to fit in with work

Word of advice though, if you get distracted on their 4th birthday and put only 3 candles on their cake you'll still be hearing about it in 10 years time...Blush Grin

(It was just at home with the 3 of us, not at her big party)

chastenedButStillSmiling · 07/04/2017 23:46

It's fine!

Don't do it for the 18th!

loaferloveforyou · 07/04/2017 23:50

I've just come on to laugh at Yarburgh Grin

But yeah, I wouldn't think delaying it is an issue. I never celebrate my birthday on the actual day cos it's either a work day, people are busy etc etc

BackforGood · 07/04/2017 23:52

Doesn't everyone celebrate their birthday on a day that is actually convenient?

Surely most people wait until the weekend / until all important folk can be around.

teenmumandsowhat · 07/04/2017 23:58

In our family we have a rule that birthdays are mainly celebrated on the most convenient Saturday closest to your birthday. Birthday meals/ parties cake and sometimes presents.
And on your actual birthday, particularly if it's on an awkward midweek day, when family are working. You might just get your cards, a cupcake and a few small presents.

ProlificPoster · 08/04/2017 01:58

Haha, it literally doesn't matter. 😂

We've delayed older kids birthdays from time to time and no one cared. They used to think it was funny and preferred to wait until DH was home.

Scottishchick39 · 08/04/2017 02:12

I did it too, she didn't know the difference and she also waited until that day when her dad was home to walk for the first time.

Out2pasture · 08/04/2017 02:58

Do you really have to check a public form on this?
Why would you think delaying the party is a bad idea?

sobeyondthehills · 08/04/2017 03:23

To be honest, I could of delayed my DS' 5th birthday by a week and he wouldn't of noticed.

I have the bonus his birthday is Easter holidays, so no school to remind him.

Family members ringing up and singing happy birthday could of ruined this plan, but otherwise all would of been good

SpookyPotato · 08/04/2017 03:24

Of course it's okay... They don't have a clue and it really doesn't matter. My DS is nearly turning 3 and he won't know the exact day of that either!

BearHunting · 08/04/2017 03:46

It's absolutely fine.

They're not going to have a clue that it's not their actual birthday. Even if you tried to tell your DC they're not going to understand what you're talking about.

Original poster
wigglewam · 08/04/2017 07:19

Thank you for the reassurance, I was worrying it was a silly idea. Fatmummy87 maybe you could celebrate a day earlier!
GiraffesCantReachTheirToes - I quite like the word 'yarburgh'!

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wigglewam · 08/04/2017 08:46

Out2pasture I'm not delaying a party. I have no issue with that and do it with my other children almost every year. But we still acknowledge their actual birthday and give them cards, presents, special breakfast/dinner/cake and phone calls/Skype family then just do the party at the weekend or whenever. I mean not acknowledging the actual birthday at all on the actual day doing nothing special - no presents/phone calls/cake and doing it all a differently day. I guess the idea just felt a bit uncomfortable to me and was worried about what my other children and family members would think. But as people have pointed out DC won't know and if the child needs some counselling about it in later life I'll say mumsnet told me it wasn't ok😉

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Piffpaffpoff · 08/04/2017 08:49

No. Dc1 had their 2nd birthday - party, presents, everything - a week early because DC2 was due the day before their actual birthday. I told them this yesterday for some reason (DC1 is now 11) and they thought it was hilarious!

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