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AIBU?

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To get rid of the biscuit jar

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LovelyBath77 · 01/04/2017 16:32

DH seems to have this habit from childhood of having a digestive biscuit with a cuppa in the morning and now he's introduced this to the DC's (sigh). One is fine, doesn't have it but the other is now increasingly asking for biscuits. It's hard when they are on display and feeling like the baddy while dad gives them. MIL kindly replenishes the biscuit stock at weekends. I have told her to stop and have taken them to the food bank. Anyway, last week I threw out the remaining biscuits and put away the jar. DH not happy in the morning, says he will restock. Says DS is not fat and it is Ok for him to have them. AIBU?

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HerBluebiro · 01/04/2017 16:58

It's a single digestive biscuit. For a slender child.

Unclench

feathermucker · 01/04/2017 17:00

If it's just one biscuit in the morning, I really don't see the harm at all tbh! You do sound a bit petty taking all the biscuits away......save your anger for something worthwhile maybe?

Oh and......

DearMrDilkington · 01/04/2017 17:02

StarlingMurderation · 01/04/2017 17:02

I don't think you should be chucking your DH's biscuits away. I'd be furious if DP did that. One digestive biscuit a day isn't going to hurt your child, unless there's a massive dripfeed about DC being obese/diabetic/unable to control appetite due to a medical condition.

Soubriquet · 01/04/2017 17:03

Bloody hell.
One biscuit and you react like this?!

My children have 2 biscuits a day on average. Their little treats

Oblomov17 · 01/04/2017 17:09

Why get rid? Self control is needed. Doesn't have to be every day.

summerholsdreamin · 01/04/2017 17:10

megletthesecond · 01/04/2017 17:11

Can't you just put the biscuit jar in a cupboard so the dc's don't pester you for them.

Don't get rid of the biscuits though. You have to have biscuits in the house.

WhooooAmI24601 · 01/04/2017 17:15

DS2 loves biscuits to the point of madness; given chance he'd live on nothing but digestives and dust. I just say "maybe later" and he gets on with it. Teach your DS that having treats in the house doesn't mean you have to eat them immediately. And that when you say no it means no and if he pesters, he has to wait even longer for one. It worked with DS2.

CountFosco · 01/04/2017 17:22

We don't have biscuits in the house, no-one has died yet. Happy to have biscuits if we have guests but I don't want them in the house all the time. Kids seem to cope whereas e.g. when there was gingerbread in the house after Christmas DS was wanting one all the time.

There's lots of evidence that people who live in households that don't have a ready supply of sweets/biscuit/soft drinks/cake eat less sugar than those who live in households where those things aren't around all the time. It's not rocket science.

Of course I am the mean mother who threw out the Halloween sweets one year after discovering the DC had hidden some in their bedroom and had been eating them at night after they went to bed (something they'd already been told they weren't allowed to do, the rule is no food after teethbrushing at night) so lots of people will think I'm a bit extreme.

LilacSpatula · 01/04/2017 17:28

We don't have biscuits in the house

UnicornButtplug · 01/04/2017 17:32

I dont think the odd digestive will cause obesity. We have biscuits in the house and the children are allowed one after school, if i say no it means no and they dont pester.

Neverknowing · 01/04/2017 17:52

I understand what your saying op! Doesn't seem like a good breakfast to me but maybe hide the jar in the cupboard to avoid fighting with your DP about it?

Meekonsandwich · 01/04/2017 19:58

You absolutely do not need a biscuit jar and it's a bad habit to get into.

When I was younger we had 2 biscuits in a Saturday with a cup of tea. It was out treat.
You say "what harm is it if your dc are slender"
But it's the sugar and fat inside that's bad.
Being slim does not equate healthy. One of my friends got type 2 diabetes and was and has always been slim. He was 15.

I would be wary about starting habits like this.

Also you and your dh need to communicate and be on the same page when it comes to who has what and when.
He cannot undermime you as it shows a lack of respect. Your children will pick upon this very quickly.

Violetcharlotte · 01/04/2017 20:09

I can't imagine of having a biscuit with my tea and coffee! DC are the same and always had a biscuit with their drinks, right from toddlers. Probably a terrible habit, but they're both strapping teens without an ounce of fat on them and their teeth are fine. I really don't think the odd biscuit is the end of the world.

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LovelyBath77 · 01/04/2017 20:34

Yes, i think it is a bad habit to get into. It;s basically a mix of flour, sugar and vegetable oil and not good for the blood sugars etc. They haven;t returned...yet! Hoping this may continue :-)

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LovelyBath77 · 01/04/2017 20:35

Sorry, but what does the symbol thing mean? The dot.

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WallisFrizz · 01/04/2017 20:39

When you say biscuit with tea In the morning do you mean at breakfast time...Yanbu ...or for a mid morning snack...yabu.

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LovelyBath77 · 01/04/2017 20:50

I mean first thing in the morning, before breakfast. Sometimes my young DS won;t have breakfast due to it which is annoying as i want him to start the day with something better than that. I know sugary snacks make you feel rubbish later.

I don't think I should be given the dots for wanting healthy habits for my child. if that's what it means.

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bigmac4me · 02/04/2017 11:40

Sometimes I think I live in another world and wonder how I have managed to raise 4 children to adulthood. Biscuits have never been a worry to me - have one, have two, don't have one, don't have two, buy them if I feel like it, don't if I don't. Shock/horror I gave my grandson three biscuits yesterday. Granted one of our current foster children would eat the whole packet (but then sometimes so could I), but that aside biscuits have never been on my radar. This may come across as PA, but it genuinely isn't meant to. I admire how so many of you are so good and healthy, and raising children with great teeth and stable blood sugar levels. As I say I live in a different world, and know I could never find the time or energy to worry about a biscuit. I've just muddled through somehow.

summerholsdreamin · 02/04/2017 11:49

Absolutely Bigmac

raviolidreaming · 02/04/2017 11:53

I am hoping for a drip feed to reveal that the DC are in their twenties.

MadisonAvenue · 02/04/2017 11:55

We rarely buy biscuits because I'm a glutton who can't stop at one or two
We do, however, have a biscuit jar which, much to my son's disappointment, is where the dog's biscuits are kept.

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/04/2017 11:58

We used to get a cup of milk and a chocolate biscuit (penguin/Club/Trio etc), for supper every night, it's a lovely thing and I introduced my DD to the same.
Leave them be, a digestive with Daddy in the morning is sweet and one of those little things they'll remember.

LostMyDotBrain · 02/04/2017 12:00

OP, those dots that you're seeing are...biscuits!

Don't throw away food you know your DH wants and enjoys. Put the jar in a cupboard and have a chat with him about not giving in to requests for biscuits from DC before breakfast. Then stick together and enforce that.

I'd be really pissed if my partner gave my treats away to food banks.

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