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Can I take DD to her appointment?

28 replies

wildthingsmummy · 28/03/2017 23:31

I'm not sure what to do, I'd appreciate advice please.

My daughter has an important hospital appointment tomorrow morning, but I've just started being sick (felt it coming on all evening). I really don't want to cancel her appointment at such short notice, because I don't know how long we'd have to wait for it to be rescheduled. On the other hand, I'm not sure I should be potentially spreading the sickness bug around a hospital.

Any suggestions?

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Wolfiefan · 28/03/2017 23:32

Can someone else take her? You can't risk spreading a vomiting bug around vulnerable patients. You really can't.

Piehunter · 28/03/2017 23:42

I spend a lot of time in hospitals for outpatient appointments. My immune system is utterly rubbish and what would be a 2/3 day sick bug for most renders me bedbound for a good couple of weeks. Please don't risk spreading it to people who have no choice to be there, and who don't have the option of protecting themselves from your germs, it's your job to keep them to yourself!

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wildthingsmummy · 28/03/2017 23:42

There isn't really anyone else to take her. DH working away until Thursday. I would usually ask my mum, but she's not well herself! The only other person is MIL, but I don't trust her to relay the correct information from the doctors properly. I'll just have to cancel it and hope for a quick reschedule. I wouldn't want to spread anything nasty around!

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ChestyNut · 28/03/2017 23:42

No way should you attend.

Either get someone else to take her or reschedule.

Ill vulnerable people do not need a vomiting bug.

MimsyFluff · 28/03/2017 23:59

Depending on how important the appointment is your DH should take her. My DH has had to leave work twice in nearly nine years of been a parent

EyeStye · 29/03/2017 00:02

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chastenedButStillSmiling · 29/03/2017 00:03

You say the appointment is "important". Is it? Is it really important? If it properly is, and it were my child and there wasn't anyone else, yes I'd take her. I'd wrap myself up well and do my best not to come into contact with anyone else.

Sorry, no one else reading this will agree with me, and I know you're all right. But I'm being honest in saying what I'd do if I thought my child had cancer or similar and there was no one else I trusted available.

sonyaya · 29/03/2017 00:15

Yeah it does sort of depend what it is. If it's not life or death, don't go. If it potentially is... send her with MIL and get the doctor to call you for info.

Foldedtshirt · 29/03/2017 00:22

How old is she? 14+ you wait in the car park and she could go in alone?

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wildthingsmummy · 29/03/2017 00:24

She's having a brain scan. I really don't trust MIL to take her. Spoke to DH and he's not happy for MIL to take her either. As I said, DH is away until Thursday, and wouldn't be able to get home by tomorrow anyway. He doesn't work away a lot, so it's just typical that it's happened now!

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wildthingsmummy · 29/03/2017 00:24

She's 7.

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Out2pasture · 29/03/2017 00:26

where is the appointment, hospital or dr.'s office?
call the receptionist and let them know, you can possibly wait in a separate room or maybe in your car and be called in via text or phone.

scottishdiem · 29/03/2017 00:32

Brain scan for what?

For suspected cancer - I'd be a walking bloody shit stained zombie in the waiting room.

But less important, depends. How long did you wait for it in the first place? If ages, will the ages waiting again affect your childs health. If yes, see the zombie thing.

If no, let it go and wait. And make sure that DH takes the day off and cancels trips as well. People always seem to get ill when cover is unavailable.

Katie0705 · 29/03/2017 00:33

Definitely stay away, Wildthings. Your daughter will need you or your DH with her when she has the scan as it can be really frightening for a young child. The one thing you could do is to contact the department first thing in the morning so you can explain the situation and ask for their advice.

Hope you feel better very soon and best wishes for your DD

PandaPolar · 29/03/2017 00:35

I would get MIL to take her - it's better than risking very vulnerable people in the radiology waiting rooms (mostly cancer patients receiving treatment) getting your bug. It could kill them.

Or reschedule if it's a routine scan for something that isn't life threatening.

Italiangreyhound · 29/03/2017 00:40

Get your mother in law to take her and ask for the doctor to put you on speaker phone through the appointment, ask for that by phone urgently in the morning.

Hope all is well with your dd.

Lingotria · 29/03/2017 00:47

Go. I'd go with a nappy on if my dd was having such an important scan. Just ensure your hands are appropriately sanitized

PandaPolar · 29/03/2017 00:50

Just to add - if she's having a scan, there will likely not be any doctors there - so need for MIL to relay information. Hospital will have notes, provide a written note as well if it makes you feel more comfortable. Scans will be reviewed by doctors, but there usually isn't one in the scanning office at the time unless it's a life threatening emergency, or something very serious potentially.

deliverdaniel · 29/03/2017 00:57

I would go (unless it really is something routine and non urgent that I can't think of now that would involve a brain scan)

Norovirus for eg is transmitted by not washing your hands and touching things that other people touch. It is not airborne. Wash your hands incredibly thoroughly and regularly. Wear gloves. But brainscan for a DC? I would go.

VimFuego101 · 29/03/2017 01:14

I agree with a previous poster; have MIL take her and put you on speakerphone for the discussion with the doctor.

LorLorr2 · 29/03/2017 01:19

Oh poor you! Flowers
Can you do what pp said and have the doctors phone you so you can speak directly to them, or get your MIL to phone you while she's there with them?

AcrossthePond55 · 29/03/2017 01:19

I would go. I'd scrub my hands, wear a surgical mask, and avoid touching things as much as I could to avoid spreading infection. Alert the staff as soon as you get there. If you don't have a mask, I'm sure they'll get you one.

If it's a case of you being too ill, let MiL take her. With tests it's normally just the technicians running the machines and no results are given. A simple brain scan wouldn't require any aftercare instructions unless she's being sedated, and they usually give written instructions anyway.

If you are too ill and if you expect that results or other vital information will be given during the test, then reschedule.

OlennasWimple · 29/03/2017 01:24

Will vital information really only be passed on orally during the scan? I'd phone and check, including whether they will be writing to your GP with the results, and / or scheduling an appointment to discuss the results when they have done whatever they need to do to review the scans.

Sedona123 · 29/03/2017 01:32

I agree that you should let your MIL take your daughter tomorrow. As a PP has said, all relevant information from the Dr will be in with the referral.

No way should you go anywhere near a hospital when you have a vomiting virus. It's also quite unlikely that you will be well enough to drive and accompany your dd to her appointment anyway.

Sample1936 · 29/03/2017 01:43

Definitely mil to take her.