So I had a subtotal colectomy 4 weeks ago and came out of hospital 3 weeks ago. (Most of my large intestine removed) and I now have a delightful stoma and a bag.
Yesterday I was diagnosed with a chest infection possibly pneumonia (which I've had badly in the past after a major operation).
My little girl is two and throwing tantrums. DH is on his day off today so looking after her and me. Dd wants to go out this morning (big tantrum) and she's got a hospital appointment this afternoon.
I've told dh I can't manage to go out both this morning and this afternoon. Not only cos I feel like crap but also bit terrified to go out generally in case the bag leaks (which he knows). He says he's seen me worst and basically said I'll do it if it's something I really want to do. (Mothers day I spent the meal in the car because I couldn't stand the smell/thought of food! I really wanted to do that!!)
Aibu not even trying to do both? Hospital appointment isn't too onerous really... and dd misses me terribly.