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Not wanting dirty accounts on bf's Snapchat

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SamiS · 23/03/2017 01:12

Am I overreacting for being upset and wanting pornstars and dirty accounts off of my bf's Snapchat? I just find it disgusting and I don't feel comfortable with it.

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Birdsgottaf1y · 23/03/2017 01:20

What's a 'dirty account' and how long have you been together?

SamiS · 23/03/2017 01:23

It's basically an account where this girl post nudes and videos of her doing stuff. And for about a year now

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HeartShapedBox · 23/03/2017 02:00

I'd find it really disrespectful, to be honest. And rather sad and pathetic.

LilQueenie · 23/03/2017 02:08

did he add her before getting together with you or after?

SamiS · 23/03/2017 02:09

After we got together

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LilQueenie · 23/03/2017 02:11

have you discussed this with him?

SamiS · 23/03/2017 02:13

I haven't spoken to him properly about it but I have made a comment or so about how I don't like it and he just brushes it off and says that it's not a big deal

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LilQueenie · 23/03/2017 02:19

Well if really bothers you I suggest finding out what it is that bothers you about it then sit down and talk properly.

TheGaleanthropist · 23/03/2017 02:29

Agree with LilQueenie. Talk to him properly about it. FWIW, I wouldn't be comfortable with that either.

tallwivglasses · 23/03/2017 02:34

i wouldn't waste the time talking to him 'properly'. Think what you could be doing instead. Don't waste your life.

daisychain01 · 23/03/2017 02:43

I'd kick any man to the kerb who doesn't take my concerns seriously after saying it's upsetting.

This filth is so freely available now, it's almost like phone wallpaper. Offensive, if you're trying to build a relationship to know he has another woman's boobs in his face.

There are men out there who don't want that stuff in their life, even if people on here claim to be cool about it.

daisychain01 · 23/03/2017 02:44

A year is way too long for him not to get the message!

Faez · 23/03/2017 02:49

Agree with tall

AnnaFiveTowns · 23/03/2017 03:01

What tall said. Don't bother trying to discuss it. If he can't see what the problem is then there's no hope.

AnyFucker · 23/03/2017 03:26

Get some self respect and kick him into touch

Kiwiinkits · 23/03/2017 04:03

seriously, there are good respectful men out there who don't objectify women in this way. And who don't brush off and belittle legitimate concerns from their girlfriends.

this is a red flag. Dump.

Kiwiinkits · 23/03/2017 04:04

If he can't see what the problem is then there's no hope.

She said it better than me.

EmeraldScorn · 23/03/2017 05:25

If he hasn't acknowledged after a year that it's something you don't feel comfortable with, then he's never going to because he blatantly dismissed your feelings on the matter a long time ago.

If your boyfriend wants to have "nudes" to look at on his phone then surely said photos should be ones from his girlfriend, not some Snapchat hussy. (I'm not suggesting that you have to let him photograph you naked, I just mean he has you, he shouldn't need to get his kicks elsewhere).

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