about hubby, he thinks I am

[daysgoingby]

Hubby wakes up ridiculously early, sometimes before 5. He says he can't help this. Obviously as a result he is ready for bed at nine, and tbh he's often asleep even before this, snoring.

Thing is I get really lonely sat down myself in the evenings. And weekends are a nightmare, I like to have a proper lie-in but he is still up and then we've maybe only got a few hours together. Can't have a night out as he's tired

AIBU?

Yabu he's an adult he can decide what time he gets up and what time he goes to bed.

Why should he be the one to change, if you're the one it bothers? You could get up earlier and go to bed earlier if you wanted to spend more time together

Yes I understand this but i feel my bedtimes are slightly more in keeping with what most adults do.

I know how you feel my husband is/was the same. Is your husband a drinker? Dh was worse when he drank, now he's stopped his sleep has improved 100%

You are unreasonable to call him your hubby, but I would be a bit pissed off if dh toddled off to bed at nine every night

Why does he have to change the time he goes to bed and gets up? Why don't you change it?

He is bu to not make an exception once a week or occasionally to go out.

While it would be unreasonable for you to tell him when to go to bed, it would help to know how he ended up like this. I mean, if he's always been this way, you knew it when you married him.

Does he have to be at work super early so needs to wake at 5? If not, surely some room for compromise from both of you. He could try going to bed an hour later and shift his sleeping pattern back an hour, for example. And then make sure he doesn't wake you on weekends when you want a lie-in.

But as one who has real problems sleeping, I'd get very pissed off with someone telling me I couldn't do what I needed to in order to get a proper night's sleep.

As a adult I think he can go to bed/get up when he likes tbh

If the man is tired he needs to sleep.

The OP is not unreasonable to call him her hubby, if that's what she calls him

He just wakes up early, and although he's always been an earlybird not THIS early, sometimes it's half four I generally stay in bed till 10/11 weekends.

I get up early, around 5.30 with the dcs, and normally go to bed 11/12, dh hates getting up and i regularly have to shout at weekends as it is like living with a teenager, now I just put the two youngest in the bedroom and shut them in, that tends to shift him

She can call him hubby if she wants. That wasn't her AIBU fgs.

It does seem really early to be going to sleep but you can't dictate someones sleeping patternns I'm afraid.

Yabu. I wake no later than 6.30 in winter and 5.30 in summer. I wish i had some control over it, i just don't. Going to bed later just makes me more tired

I'm just like your Dh. I've always been a lark and awake about 5.30, I get up at 5.45 during the week. I'm just starting to feel a bit tired so will be in bed by 9.00, asleep by 9.30 probably. It's my body clock, always been like this.

YABU.

I'm like your DH too. Couldnt stand being made to stay up later than I want to because DH insists he's right about what time I should go to bed .

I'd also be pretty resentful if he wanted to laze away the weekends staying in bed until 10/11, that would really piss me off.

I'm like your DH.

Why not compromise - both go to bed at 10, up at 6.

I'm not convinced it's the norm to sleep till 10/11 on the weekend though. That seems such a waste of a day.

Google "familial advanced sleep phase disorder"...

Sounds like your dp has what my hubby has. We've been together 15 years and have never once been to the cinema in the evening as he can't stay awake.

Winter evenings are lonely and he wakes up anywhere between 4-6am no matter what time he goes to bed.