Threatening language

[yousignup]

He would never do it I am sure, but it's really not right to snarl "I'll batter you" with an ugly twisted face, is it? No other threatening gestures or body language.

No it's not right.

It will escalate.

And never fall into the trap of thinking they won't do it. They will, they just want you desensitised and compliant first. So they speak to you like that until it's no longer something you question.

Even if you don't think he'll do it - and you can't really be sure of that - trying to control you with threats is enough to show this is not a man to be with.

Yes that's what I didn't want to hear but I think you're right.

Why are you sure he would never do it? It sounds as though he would

Either way, LTabusiveB

The fact he said means it's crossed his mind, he might do it next time.

He's stupid. He sounds so thick when he speaks.

Please tell me the appeal of this relationship?

He is abusive and you are dismissive of his intelligence.

Either way, do not give him the opportunity to take his threat further. It sounds like there is nothing worth staying for.

When angry and defensive he becomes blokey and vulgar and just sounds so stupid. His accent changes also. That's what I mean.

Why was he angry? Does it happen often?

I mean it's like a posturing nasty swagger. It's awful to watch and listen to.

Because I told him he's nasty when drunk.

And his response was that?

Really OP, that is not right on any level. Please don't keep yourself in this environment.

So he's done it a few times then. Not good at all. Run!