That's it really. I discovered my H has been having sex with other women. I have been to STD clinic and had my free half hour with a solicitor. She was truly wonderful. I now feel like the clouds have lifted and I have some power back.
I've posted on AIBU for traffic to urge any of you PLEASE, PLEASE, look after yourselves if you suspect there's another woman on the scene. I never envisaged I'd ever be in this position as I naively thought my marriage was ok