AIBU to expect a thank you?

[RebelRogue]

I have a good friend. We have been friends for nearly 4 years now,but lately due to jobs,kids etc we barely see each other or keep in touch. I was hoping we'd be able to get together at some point during half term and i told her that. Only communication i had from her this half term was to ask me to look after her child next week. I said yes and to just remind me as i might forget and no other replies,not even a thank you. In her defence she does have a very busy life,but dunno?

Probably just very busy - I'm crap at remembering to text back. Why don't you give her a call?

So you'd ask for a favour,see the reply and then just forget about it? Fair enough.
We don't really do phone calls unless urgent.

I always give the benefit of the doubt as I'm terrible at texting back (then waste loads of time worrying about whether it's now too late to text back, what will I say to justify the delay etc etc.) but yes it is a bit rude. I would hope though that if/when you do look after her child you'll get a genuine thank you.

Yes I would expect a thank you for that. What will you do now? I'd be tempted to text back "hi, I don't think you got my reply. Yes I can look after your dc next week" and see what she says. If she doesn't reply I wouldn't do it, just say you assumed she didn't need you as you never heard back.

If I'd asked for a favour I'd definitely respond with a thank you.

It is rude.

Text her back ask her if she doesn't need babysitting anymore as she's not acknowledged your response to her request

Followed your advice and texted to confirm if she still needs me so I'll wait for a reply. I'll have the child anyways as DD is really excited about it and it's on a day where I don't have as much to do .

Your doing this for free?

I think to ask someone you've barely seen or keep in touch with lately to take care of your child for free is a bit cheeky anyway tbh but not to bother with even a thanks ( for the free childcare) is rude!

Yes she may be busy but your giving up your time to care for her child as a favour

Reply "yes pls"

Have her child as it suits you and your dd.

See how she is going forward. She should buy you a little thankyou gift or be really grateful for the child care and if she's not then I think your friendship is cooling off.

I'd write back "you're welcome".

I don't expect gifts or money or whatever. I was just expecting a thank you and maybe a how are you/proposal to meet up. That would've been nice.

Yes it is rude and the lack if thank you from the latest text is also rude. See how she is when she drops the DC off - she just might have an abrupt text manner. I tend to give people a lot of rope so apologies if this is a bit annoying!

Not annoying at all,i did ask for opinions. I guess I'll just see how she is tomorrow when she comes to pick up her DC from my house(I'm picking my kid and hers from school).

Yes, still quite rude and taking you for granted. Do you often look after her child? See how she is tomorrow, but be "busy" in future if still no thank you.

I'd text back saying "i guess you're waiting thank me for the favour with a bottle of red at end of tomorrow. Merlot goes down well in this house, ta."

Who is too busy to text "thanks" to free childcare?!

unless they are sometimes taking your child home after school/ looking after them this sounds more like a leech than a good friend. Unless you get a lot of thanks in person I'd be too busy the next time they ask.

If it suits you and makes your DD happy to have a friend over I would not say anything to her, as you will be cutting off your nose to spite your face. It's rude yes, but not the end of the world.