To want to tell my SIL to go and take a running jump...

[OhJustPassTheCake]

So I don't have a good relationship with my brother and his wife, unfortunately. I used to be great mates with my brother but since his wife came along (10 ish years ago now!) it's got worse and worse over time. She doesn't like to associate with family, preferring her friends over anyone and everyone. Her choice but makes a lot of situations awkward, especially as I would like my son to have a relationship with them and his cousins.

Anyhoo.... she has just text me to say that she is organising a surprise party for my bro's 40th in the summer, so I'm thinking, ooooh that sounds fun, I wonder what we'll be doing..... and then it says "so because everyone will be there I was wondering if you would babysit?"

After I spat my tea all over my keyboard and got over the shock, I typed back a very blunt and rude text but don't dare send it! How does she dare not invite us!??? I really wanna put her in her place but I also don't want to cause a bigger rift in the family...... what do I do Mumsnetters, WHAT DO I DO! I fucking hate the evil bitch

"Are you 'avin a fucking laff?!" is the only acceptable response.

What a bint she is.

You could be sarky and text back "haha, good one! So what are you planning and is it on his actual birthday?' 😇

The old classic of 'Are you on Glue?!?!' Should suffice!!
What a fucking cheek.

I would text back ; 'No. '

(I'd have to sit on my hands to type what I really think).

Ha ha hilarious. So what's the plan?

Forward the email to your brother

Politely decline.

Jesus.

So his own kids ain't allowed at the party either???

That's really weird. Presumably from your OP there must be a backstory. How about replying something along the lines of 'We'd love to attend the party and as it's adults only perhaps we can share a babysitter with the dc at ours so you can have your hangover in peace?' Then see what she says. It would take some huge brass balls for her then to reply and say you're not invited...

As in, decline to babysit.

Respond: oh sorry, we can't babysit because we are coming to the party.

Tell Ber she's got more front than Blackpool

Her even

Unless... It's not a swingers party, is it?

Text back "but surely you'll be inviting us too? DB would expect us to be there"

Christ what a nerve!

Fuck right off ought to cover it

You reply with the truth,

"He's my brother and I'd like to celebrate his 40th with him, so no I won't babysit, I'll be seeing my brother on his birthday."

I would text back and say that actually if you aren't invited to attend that you will be making other plans for that evening, in fact I would be tempted to buy him tickets for an event on that evening as your present to him and take him out for the night and really throw a spanner in the works

Oh My Days! I knew I could rely on you guys.... now to choose the best response.....

Just say "No I'd rather go to my brothers party thanks!"

I'd text back simply 'everyone will not be there. His sister apparently won't be.'

I'd reply ' haha, I think you have sent this to the wrong person. This is (your name) number. I'll be at the party as I'm his sister ! Lol. What time is the party ?

If she replays saying your not invited then forward it all to your brother. what a bitch.

Are other family invited to this party? Or is it just for their social friends?

It's cheeky either way, but much more massively so if the former.

oh good question DorcasthePuffin..... I'll try and find out.... xx

Text back just saying 'a party sounds lovely, I'm looking forward to it. We can sort our own babysitters thanks.'
Make it seem like you've totally misunderstood. See what she sends back.
Bloody cheek!