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AIBU?

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Husband and weight loss.

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LovelyBath77 · 10/02/2017 15:37

I'm on a low carb diet. It is helping. However DH fails to understand it and keeps telling me I just need to at less.

So, I emailed his this video www.dietdoctor.com/become-fat-overeating-overeat-becoming-fat which explains why that is not the case. He relied, What's your point? So I told him, that it's not just about eating less. If he's not interested don't bother watching but stop telling me to eat less.

AIBU to feel cross about this?

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luckylucky24 · 10/02/2017 15:39

Sounds like he is trying to be helpful but I can see why it would be annoying.

shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 10/02/2017 15:41

It's hard to judge who IBU without knowing a bit more history

If you have become a complete low-carb bore then YABU

If he is trying to sabotage your diet then he IBU

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LovelyBath77 · 10/02/2017 15:44

Think he was just cross I emailed him at work. He's asking why I'm bothering and making him feel bad while at work (sigh) I was just fed up cos I'm not being a bore, just when he sees me eating he tells me, all you need to do is eat less and it's wrong- that doesn't work. So I was just trying to explain it and that video is really helpful. He probably just is busy and finding it annoying. Not very supportive though. I won't mention it again i think.

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BakeOffBiscuits · 10/02/2017 15:46

Well, I think you are both being unreasonable.

He should support whichever way you choose to lose weight, but you can't make him 'understand' low carbing, because not every one agrees with it.

I have personally done low carbing, but whilst I lost weight I put it all back on again, because I realised I wanted to eat bread, pasta and bananas and they can be part of a healthy diet. I have since lost weight and kept it off, by eating almost what ever I like, but I eat healthily and I eat less of it and I know i will keep this weight off because if i want a crumpet, i will have one!

Sirzy · 10/02/2017 15:46

Why email it to him at work though rather than sitting down at home and suggesting he watches it if he wants to understand your logic? Z

BakeOffBiscuits · 10/02/2017 15:49

Sorry Xposted.

Yes it is probably best if you don't email him videos at work about your diet

If he says 'it's not correct to eat like that' again, just say 'I know there are different ways to lose weight, I want to try this one So shut up'

Good luck with it!

Juveniledelinquent · 10/02/2017 15:51

Just say yes and ignore what he's saying. DH's say all sorts of rubbish, best to ignore most of it lol

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LovelyBath77 · 10/02/2017 15:54

Yes might have been an idea to show him it later. It's an INSET day here and he was grumpy about working anyway and jealous we're off so not the best timing. I know he's going to come home and be grumpy now and moan about it being a mess etc and that we've been on the computer on youtube while he's been working etc etc. Oh well lesson lead I guess. Maybe he'll shut up about the diet then.

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barinatxe · 10/02/2017 15:54

It depends on your situation. If you are wolfing down 4,000 calories a day then "eating less" would be a good place to start if you want to lose weight.

If you are on a diet of 1,500 calories a day, "eating less" would be ill-advised.

The best thing for losing weight is a sensible, balanced diet. "Low-carb" or "no-carb" or whatever may work to a point, but a carb-free 5,000 calories a day is not going to work as well as 2,000 calories of fresh, unprocessed, low fat, low sugar food.

It's not really possible to say for sure that your husband is being unreasonable. Perhaps he is, perhaps you are, perhaps both of you and perhaps neither.

Niloufes · 10/02/2017 16:13

He is kind of right, eating less does work. But what you really have to do is change your diet to eat the "right" things and then you can eat as much of the right things as you like. A low carb diet won't do it all. I suspect he's just bored of the conversation tbh.

SittingWithMyFeetUP12 · 10/02/2017 16:19

I'm sorry but I speak from years of experience, husbands are by their very nature annoying, ignore him, as much as you are able, as they also tend to go on about things...a lot.

TheMythOfFingerprints · 10/02/2017 16:21

He's making you feel bad at home though...

ScarlettFreestone · 10/02/2017 16:23

You emailed your DH a video about weight loss to his work?

And you don't know why he's annoyed?

Goodness.

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LovelyBath77 · 10/02/2017 16:33

It's his personal email, he's self employed.

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PickAChew · 10/02/2017 16:36

Agreeing with shagged.

DH and I are both losing weight just fine just by eating a bit less.

NarkyMcDinkyChops · 10/02/2017 16:40

You do know that diet dr video is just another opinion? It's not a fact, you're not countering his opinions with facts, just with different opinions.
You should eat whatever you like, and tell him to mind his own, but don't pretend you have some kind of better idea about what is best than he does.

ofshoes · 10/02/2017 16:42

He's not wrong though, reducing overall calorie intake is usually more sensible than any faddy diet.

oldlaundbooth · 10/02/2017 16:42

You'd be better off on the low carb boards on here OP, we love chatting

ScarlettFreestone · 10/02/2017 16:46

Ah, that's not so bad then.

VeganCow · 10/02/2017 16:49

He is right. Weight loss = calories used higher than calorie intake. A calorie is a calorie. You can eat 6 big slices of bread a day filled with mashed potato and lose weight.

Serialweightwatcher · 10/02/2017 16:53

Just explain it when he gets home or when it's mentioned again and if he doesn't understand it, tell him to keep his nose out of your diet

NotStoppedAllDay · 10/02/2017 16:58

Yes he's right

And I myself lost 5 stone through low carbing. Portion control is still going to be an influence with weight loss!!'

specialsubject · 10/02/2017 17:32

CBA to watch a babbly video, but diet doctor talks about cutting back on sugar, sweets, cakes, sugary fruits. Does also recommend less starchy stuff, as carbs have four calories a gram.

I.e. eat fewer calories to lose weight.

And in other news, bears excrete in the woods...

WorraLiberty · 10/02/2017 17:42

I think your DH is spot on about eating less.

Otherwise anyone who went on a low carb diet, would only ever have to do it once in their life.

However, for many people that really doesn't seem to be the case and once they stop, and go back to their old way of eating the weight piles back on.

Learning to eat less and exercise more is a lifestyle change - low carb diets (for most people) are not.

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LovelyBath77 · 10/02/2017 19:37

The thing is, once you are on if a bit, you kind of eat less anyway as the food is so filling. I'm only eating two meals a day now, but what he sees is a plate full or e.g. avocado and eggs, etc and it does look like quite a lot. I guess that is how it works, the overall intake goes down as you aren;t craving stuff as much and having up and down blood sugars etc.

He came home with lots of carb-goodies so not sure if he's rubbing it in or what. Leaving him to it...good idea might chat on the low carb diet board instead. I kind of thought he might want to join in and didn't understand, but maybe not.

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