So I went into hospital to have a wee op and ended up having anaphylaxis during surgery nearly died and ended up in ICU.
When I woke up in the ICU my dad and his girlfriend were sitting by my bed and had been there since 10 minutes after my partner let him know what had happened.
Between himself and my partner they had decided that it was best that a parent stayed with our children this i accept as our children are very (i want to say clingy but thats not the right word) and agree with his decision to do this 100%.
My dad and his partner visited every visiting time the whole time I was in hospital and made all arrangements for picking me up from hospital with my OH kept him up to date. My partners 70 yo mother has even made the effort to come and make sure I am doing ok (we actually have quite a good relationship for mil/dil) she helps with the kids as did my middle sister and dad.
I got a phone call from my mum asking me never to do that to her again not to sound petty and brat like but 1. I am her oldest daughter. 2. I do alot for my mum which I shouldn't have to. 3. I have not even had a phone call/message from my youngest sister even an acknowledgement of the fact that I was in hospital let alone nearly died. 4 If any of my two children were in ICU no matter there age I would be there.
Seriously wtf I actually feel taken advantage of I go out of my way to help both my youngest sister and mum. I know at the age I am I probably should be focused on me and my OH and kids but fuck sake its not as if I live on the moon and I live right next to a bloody bus stop.