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Original poster

that i find it wierd that my dh kisses my mum on the lips

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nellyfin · 27/02/2007 12:31

he has done it for years, and ive never said anything but when my dh and my mum say hello / goodbye etc they kiss on the lips. is that weird????

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nellyfin · 27/02/2007 12:31

obviously jut a peck!

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wotzsaname · 27/02/2007 12:33

always? often? I find it ait odd.

Budababe · 27/02/2007 12:34

I'd find it odd too tbh

Still cringe at the memory of going to kiss an x-boyf's Mum on cheek and she went for same side, I moved and ended up kissing her on lips - ugh.

FioFio · 27/02/2007 12:35

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Tutter · 27/02/2007 12:36

fecking wierd

TnOg · 27/02/2007 12:37

A kiss on the cheek would be more suitable I think.

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nellyfin · 27/02/2007 12:37

yeah. more often than not. lol btw budababe.

so what....should i say something to dh?

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Troutpout · 27/02/2007 12:38

ewww no like
yes ...wierd i'm afraid

LieselVentouse · 27/02/2007 12:39

eeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww gross

TnOg · 27/02/2007 12:41

As it is really bothering you, I think you should point out to him that you find it inappropriate.

WanderingTrolley · 27/02/2007 12:41

live and let live, we are repressed and untactile as a society, howe lovely he gets on well with her but...

yeuch

where are his hands when he's doing it

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nellyfin · 27/02/2007 12:42

oh nooooooooooooo. i was hoping everyone would say "fiiine, my dh and mum do it all the time". humph.

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Mala · 27/02/2007 12:42

Does he kiss his own mother on the lips? Maybe a family habit(and I thought my dh was bad )

Is your mother fine with it?

Don't think I would say anything, as he is not doing anything wrong as such. Might be more appropriate for your mum to turn her head if she wasn't keen.

TnOg · 27/02/2007 12:42

What does your mum think?

mytwopenceworth · 27/02/2007 12:43

another yuk no here. i'd get him to move it over to the cheek!

how did that start anyway? what did your mum do the first time he closed in with puckered lips? mine would have whacked dh with her handbag!

berolina · 27/02/2007 12:43

ILs do the same with dh and. hence, with me. I HATE it.

LieselVentouse · 27/02/2007 12:43

Does he slip her the tongue

WanderingTrolley · 27/02/2007 12:44

larf and barf LieselVentouse!

pucca · 27/02/2007 12:44

My FIL always goes for the lips, but he always gets my cheek (swift turn of the head!) urgh!

yacketyblah · 27/02/2007 12:46

I think it differs from family to family tbh. My dh kisses his mum on the lips (a peck I hasten to add), and hugs his dad everytime they say goodbye.

But my family have never been that demonstrative, so I found it really weird and very cringeworthy when his M&D tried to kiss me goodbye. I think they've got the message now that I'm not comfy with it and don't do it so much.

I think you should talk to dh cos it's obviously bothering you. What does your Mum think about it?

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nellyfin · 27/02/2007 12:48

my mums fine with it, well she's never complained (!) and she's a feisty woman so she wld say something if it bothered her. hmm, think its gone on too long to bring it up now. just they did it earlier and it reminded me to ask everyone here what they thought. wish i hadnt now!!!!!!

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geekgrrl · 27/02/2007 12:49

could be a family habit as others have suggested. My ILs always try to kiss me on the lips (well, I usually manage a last second divert to the cheek!) which I've always found very odd as my own family barely kiss at all, but it's obviously normal for them.

Troutpout · 27/02/2007 13:28

oh come now wandering trolley...we all thought it!

SidtheKidsMum · 27/02/2007 14:06

I went to kiss my MIL goodbye once, on the cheek, and she jumped back and went "oh no". Paused. And then said "I've got a cold". She's one of those really warm types!

I'd suggest not saying anything to your DH. I think it's pretty nice really. Lucky mum!

divamumplus · 27/02/2007 14:16

weird, i dont like too touchy feely ppl. hug is fine, but not kiss on lips, some friends does but its just air kiss isnt it.

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