to tell dh off for doing ds homework

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Ds us 6 and wanted to make a Lego titanic as part of a school project. I am rubbish at Lego so asked dh to help as clearly ds aged 6 will not be able to do it alone. I come back to find dh has built a very impressive titanic while ds has built an iceberg (ie a load of random white bricks stuck together) . Ds is pathologically honest so I know he will tell teacher dad made the boat (which he is thrilled with). Men!

let it go....it's sweet your husband wanted to help. Get your son to make a smaller version and take both in!

Don't worry teachers are used to parents helping (doing the majority) of creative homework. The main thing is your son had the idea and he and his dad spent sometime together making his idea reality.

He's only six, so I'm sure it doesn't matter that much and I doubt the teacher will be bothered. Sometimes it's probably quite nice for teachers to see that parents are taking an interest, anyway!

If your DH is still doing this when he's 11 and at secondary school, it might be an issue, but right now it's quite nice that they sat and did something together, even if your DH did the difficult bit.

YANBU-he could have helped without taking over. It is positive that they shared the experience though. Could DS maybe make a little lifeboat?

They obviously enjoyed doing it together, which probably had a bigger and more lasting benefit than the point of the homework. Let it go - get cross when it's long division.

Not only did my mother do my creative homework for me, she would RE-DO my efforts because they weren't good enough. I remember making a lovely swan out of torn up tissue paper, it took me hours. She shouted and did a whole new one because the neck on mine looked "disgusting" and wasn't swan shaped. I didn't even get a look in on making a horse collage with the lovely fluffy material we happened to have. I wasn't even allowed to cut out the shapes. I was mortified when the teacher commented about how it was "nice to see the ones the children had done" - I was in year 3 but this has stuck with me!

Why not say that your DS has made a lovely ice-berg out of random sized bricks? rather than criticise?

I think that is lovely. I wouldn't tell either of them off.

DH clearly relished the task of building the Titanic, and DS enjoyed time with him while they were doing it. Both out from under your feet, so totally win, win.

They obviously enjoyed doing it together, which probably had a bigger and more lasting benefit than the point of the homework.

No, that was the point of the homework, otherwise the point would've just been to waste peoples time.

YABU to criticise your family for having fun.

YWNBU if you moaned about the strange homework (pointless in a year 1/2, requires kids to own lego etc. etc.) But you didn't so you are still BU.

If it were sums or english or something, I'd say DH should help but not do it for him. But seeing as it's Lego I see no issues really.

sirfredgeorge the homework was not build a lego titanic. They get a topic and can choose to do a model/poster etc. Their topic is journeys, and one thing they are looking at is the titanic, so DS said he wanted to make it out of lego.

It is sweet he wanted to help but I just wish he'd let DS actually have a hand in doing the boat, even if he told him exactly where to put bits!

I wouldn't worry - this will continue even in secondary school. When my DS was in year 7 he had to make a model of a mote and Bailey castle. Sadly DS takes after me for his artistic talents - in that he has none! DH decided he would "help" and ended up building the damn thing so big it wouldn't even fit in our car. Ended up sawing it in half to get it to school eventually! 😀 DS's teacher knew exactly who had built it.

Also I'm not at all criticising dh and ds for having fun, but I think ds would have been pleased if he felt he had at least had some input into the boat.

And I didn't criticise Ds at all just told him what a great iceberg he made.