To ask for receipt or not?

[harrietm87]

I got some clothes from BIL and SIL this year for xmas. SIL works for a cheap clothes shop and they're from there - suspect she got them free or heavily discounted. They are really not my style and I won't ever wear them (suspect SIL knows this). Should I ask for the receipt or just say nothing and donate to charity shop?

Oh God say nothing!

Very poor manners to ask for the reciept!

Today has been an enjoyable day reading threads on mumsnet. I'm just shocked at some peoples manners.

And no do not ask for the receipt..

It depends what your relationship is like with them.. I would ask if I had a really close relationship with them. Otherwise I'd keep them and say nothing as it may appear rude. Eg my mum and sister in law are extremely close and I wouldn't care about asking as I know they would not be hurt they think more practically but other family members I wouldnt dare as it may come off cheeky.. Hope this helps

Christ who does that

Jesus wept! Just charity shop them.

It's supposed to be the thought that counts.

In those circumstances no I wouldn't. It would only serve to embarrass her.

In some other circumstances though I might. for example this year a family member has bought my children some expensive clothes for Christmas but they are too small to get wear out of (although the right age) - she gave me gift receipts but if she hadn't I would have asked if she had it so I could swap for a larger size.

Charity shop

Good that's what I thought! DH has asked BIL for the receipt for his and said I would be mad not to!

Backstory is we think SIL deliberately chose crap gifts but that's not really relevant.

If you are unlikely to wear anything from that shop why ask for the receipt ? Think you are trying to make an unpleasant point .

Oh dear, no of course you can't ask for the receipt, especially as you think she got them (heavily) discounted, why would you want to put her in that position?

If you don't like them send them to a charity shop. And be thankful she made the effort,

I'm pretty sure we need a picture of the offending items.

If she got them "free" or "heavily discounted" then what's the actual point of asking for receipt? It's just being nasty.

Do they have other branches that you could exchange the clothes in without a receipt?

Even with a receipt, from the description you've given of the shop I doubt you'd find anything you want.
Just charity shop them and say no more of it.

I suggest you tell her not to buy for your family again as you have no manners.

I'd try and exchange without the receipt (preferably at a branch of the stores that SIL doesn't work at, if possibly). If not, I'd just charity shop them.

EBay?

""Backstory is we think SIL deliberately chose crap gifts but that's not really relevant.""

Stop doing adult presents, or get your DH to tell his brother what you would like, so SIL isn't stuck with shopping for his family.

if DH has asked BIL for the receipt, I don't see why he can't ask for yours.

You could always exchange it for something simple like socks/gloves that are fine even if cheap.

(you can say you have put on weight and its embarassing that you need the next size up, why would that not be a reason to swap clothes?)

I don't know many family members who buy clothes and would not include a gift receipt in case the size was wrong.

Could you swap for something else in the store? Even if no clothes you like you could swap for tights/pants/socks. You don't generally need the receipt for an exchange - only for a return. That's what I would do anyway - my mum got me 2 very ugly bras for Christmas, I was planning to take them along and swap them, no harm done and no ones feelings are hurt.

Today has been an enjoyable day reading threads on mumsnet. I'm just shocked at some peoples manners.

kawla

I think I'll donate them to charity.

We had a list system with dh's family where we all said a selection of stuff we wanted with a max value of £20. SIL got everyone else stuff from their list but with me and DH gave us this other stuff (deffo not our style) which is why we feel like it was a deliberate passive aggressive move. DH did want to swap his for socks or something but I can't be bothered with the aggro.

For those who say I've no manners - isn't it common practice to include a gift receipt with clothes? What if they were the wrong size? (Not the case here but in general?)

If you think that she got them free or heavily discounted then it's pointless asking for a receipt; that will only embarrass her and this will lead to bad feeling.

Charity shops are your friend in this situation.