To find sharing a Facebook profile with partner odd

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I keep seeing people on Facebook who share Facebook accounts with their DH/DP. For example 'Emma n John Davis'

Just why do some people feel the need to do this?

I do know a few technical illiterates who share a profile because 'it's easier' or they just prefer it that way. However... if a couple ever merge their Facebook accounts when they were previously two individuals, I'm afraid it SCREAMS suspected or actual infidelity. I personally know two couples for whom this was the case, and the wife in each case was keeping their husband on a very short leash as a result of the breakdown in trust. A bit sad really.

I agree with guinnessgirl - my first thought on seeing a shared profile is which one had the affair?

I can't bear separate profiles with the same lovey pic either. Vom.

Yep! One of them has cheated and can't be trusted

It sounds very anti-feminist to say it, but I'd bet my bottom dollar the setter-uppers of such pathetic pages are the women.

It seems to give them a kind of sad validity. "Look! I've got a man!"

My half-sister's page is XlovesY and their surname. I just know he doesn't have a clue he is half of a naff FB page full of selfies and pictures of their dinner.

The ones I know who have it are Christian (Baptists) couples.

Yeah I think it's weird. Can't help but wonder which one cheated.

The only people I have ever known to have a shared FB is one where the DH had cheated...the wife was in control of the FB page also.

My sister doesn't have one but uses her DPs and will comment on stuff but sign it off from her.

I know one couple you do this. Neither has had an affair (and I do know them pretty well). I think they do it as she's a bit technophobic but likes to take a look every now and again. (She may be trying to keep tabs on him but I don't think so. That said it does look a bit odd.

Wips, my DH looks at my FB occasionally and tried to do this. Told him to set up his own. He won't because he doesn't "do Facebook".

I think it's those 'we do everything together and are best friends in every way' types. Vom 😖

In the only couple I know who do this, the husband is very dominant and controlling. Even her emails come from Howard_Hilda88 and you just get the feeling he is looking over your shoulder all the time. Not good.

I always assume one of them are up to extra shenanigans and are on a tight lead

Yes, to me spells out that one or another of them can't be trusted. Or. They can be trusted but one half is very weird and controlling.

Almost as to me as when they put themselves as someone's parent, as in: "Jane Max n Isobel's mummy". Sorry, don't you have a name? For the record I'd say that mumsnet usernames don't irk me in any way. I think because on Facebook it's meant to be your actual name, I find it odd when it isn't.

I've only ever seen it on older couples, and assumed it was because they had been together so long they don't have any friends or interests independent of one another, so always portray themselves as a single unit.

The one I know is an older couple who also have merged their names in a disturbing way - so Edward and Sophie* have become EdSop Surname. Yuck.

*Names changed to protect the idiots

I always think one of them has cheated

Or one of them is a controlling jealous partner.

My wife's aunt and uncle share a FB profile, the uncle can barely work his phone let alone FB

It's usually female led, not always a have cheated thing. More of a trust issue thing and ultimately a form of control, however its dressed up.
It is not exactly difficult to set up a Facebook account.

I admin a secret FB group which needs a specific 'qualification' to join. We have refused membership to people with joint profiles. Officially this is because the other person is not qualified. Unofficially it is because they are fricking weirdos. We also apply that to people who have clearly fake or comedy (and I use that term lightly) names.

And just this week, I saw a joint LinkedIn profile! No picture, just the full names and surnames, commenting on a work-related article. Felt like clones!

I know a couple who do this - I can never tell which one of them has commented on something. :/

The bloke told me that they didn't have separate accounts because "Facebook Causes Problems". I told him that people cause problems not the bloody website.

my first thought on seeing a shared profile is which one had the affair?

Isn't that vow renewal ?

The only couple I know who do this only set up their qccount as most of our friends organise parties and stuff through FB.

Neither of them are that fussed about it for any other reason so I think one account just to see the events is enough for them.

I know two couples who have done this.

1st couple, quite young but married. Have seperated numerous times and on those occasions they've got with other people. Definitely trust thing with those.

2nd couple, late 50s, been together forever and have 3 children. Definitely no affair or trust issues. They have all the same friends etc anyway so I guess they just figured to make a joint one.

I've never done it but I do get why some couples might. Some of the messages I've had off 'friends' of ex partners have been fucking awful, I guess joint accounts stops any of the messages before they begin.

say's threesome to me. two people looking for a third.