Any Mums Feel Nervous About Going Out Socially!

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This isn't an AIBU thread but I didn't know how to start one so I put it here. I have always been quite an anxious person & worry WAY too much about what others think, what to say etc etc. Since having DD, I very rarely go out ( we didn't have much of a social life before tbh). Some of the Mums & some people I have never met are going out for a 40th celebration meal on Saturday. Part of me is excited but mainly I am really fretting. Do any other Mums find it hard? It would be so easy just to curl up in front of the tv with my usual ready meal curry.

P.S Sorry that exclamation mark was meant to be a question mark

Are these mums from school/nursery?

Yes most of them are

I don't find it hard, no. Well, other than being a lazy cow who sometimes can't be arsed. Can I ask what is it you're finding hard specifically? Leaving your child (again, no guilt here!) or chatting to the other mums?

Would never have thought of myself as a socially anxious person at all, but I absolutely hate evenings. Even if it's just us and BFFs I panic beforehand.

And don't get me started on weddings. I try every excuse in the book to try to get out of them. Funnily, we are supposed to be going to a cousin's wedding at the weekend and DH has refused for me as he knows I'm under huge pressure to work - and I didn't complain at all before he contacted them. I love my DH.

I know exactly what you mean. Whenever I have plans to go out with people who I view more as acquaintances than close friends, I get very anxious that I will say/do the "wrong" thing and isolate myself socially. And afterwards I analyse my behaviour forensically to decide whether I did commit any social faux pas or not. It's very tiring and sometimes I do wonder if it's worth exposing myself to the anxiety. I wish I could be kinder to myself because, in general, all of these fears are utterly unfounded and I could save myself the angst!

Well I hate school parents gatherings but no problem socialising with my friends. I just don't have a lot in common with the school lot (other than kids the same age).

Go, have a glass of wine or whatever and you will probably enjoy yourself. I used to go to Pta events before I knew many parents and people were very welcoming. Good luck x