To not give my 6 month olds squash?

[WindInThePussyWillows]

Twins are turning 6 months this week and we have started weaning with baby rice, baby porridge and banana which is going really well.
My mother came over for the morning and I came downstairs to her giving Twin 1 a bottle of black currant squash.
I was really annoyed, she hadn't even asked me first and I'm not planning on giving them anything other than milk and water for the time being.
I told her how I felt and she gave me a lecture about her knowing what babies want having had 2 herself and their weaning 'menu' is very boring for them.
'When you were a baby it was all rusks, squash and biscuits'.

That's all fine but not what my DP and I have decided for our babies.
She said I was being hormonal
AIBU to be annoyed or AIBU to not give my babies squash at this age?

I also am aware I may be being PFB

milk and water to drink* for the time being, as well as the baby rice, banana and porridge to eat.

She has had her babies
These are your babies

Your rules stand, doesn't matter what she did it's up to you and DP she should respect this IMO.

Haha my goodness no YANBU. Tell her kids didn't always wear seat belts too but thankfully advice has advanced

YANBU for the simple fact that they are your children.

You need to tell her that you don't want them having it so they don't have it

You are not being PFB it's just sugar, there's no real goodness in it regardless of that the labels say I would generally avoid it for any age of child.

There is no need to give a child especially those under 12 months anything other than water and milk.

My son was 3 before he realised the "juice" in other kids bottles was not the same as his "juice" (which was water). However as a 15 year old he still chooses water over other drinks including fizzy drinks because it became a (healthy) habit.

If as parent you chose to do otherwise then that is your choice but it certainly isn't a GP's choice to override the parents' wishes.

YANBU she is!

YANBU.

If they're used to just drinking water or milk, it'll be much better for their teeth as they get older.

Mine is three and still only has water and milk. A lot of other parents have said that when they have introduced other flavoured drinks then their kids will no longer drink water anymore. It all depends on what you want for your children ☺️

Definitely not BU. My little one is 20 months old now and has only ever had water or milk. That was until this weekend when we went for lunch and my friends bought their kids fruit shoots so I let him have one and some apple juice. Well the explosive poo we got an hour later he's never having juice again.

No, I don't give my 6 year old squash, let alone 6 month old. At 6 years he has just water and milk at home, occasional mint tea with us, and has fresh juice occasionally in restaurants/ at parties etc if he wants

How dare she dismiss your concerns as "being hormonal."

She's had her turn. Put your foot down hard and don't be afraid to ask her to leave if she's as rude and dismissive of you again.

No YANBU. Parenting has moved on.

Yes, your mother has raised her own children but these are your children.

As I pointed out to a family member "It doesn't matter whether you think I'm wrong, or precious or inconsistent about this. There is no argument for you to win here. I'm their mother so what I say goes"

I told her yes, she has had two children and was allowed to learn to parent her own way and probably made a few mistakes and I'd like to be allowed to do the same.

Made me feel really undermined though

YADNBU

YANBU I held off giving my DS squash for as long as possible. I think he was approaching 2 before having squash - and that was just cordial and water in a pub as all the other kids we were with had it and gave in! We didn't give him squash at home until he was about 2 1/2. He had only known water so didn't know any different.

I would say I still actively avoid giving him Fruit Shoot or Ribena type bottles/cartons even when out and about. They send him a bit loopy! His treat is apple juice and while he's happy with that I'm not about to encourage him to drink anything else with loads of added sugar or artificial sweeteners.

But whatever you decide it's YOUR choice what you feed your child. Not hers. She has no right to over rule you. I'm sure there were lots of things that we had / did as kids that you wouldn't dream of now. Yes we survived - but we now know better!

You're not being hormonal op and it's wrong of your mother to say that. My dad tried to give my DD ice cream when she was four months old and i was shocked and r really cross with him. He may have done it for me but that's not the point. You get to decide especially when they're babies. My mum's response to my Dads faux pas was that he should have asked me first. I am guessing she doesn't want to feel pushed out but she will get the message. My DD is 14 now and i do still speak to my dad . But I remember how cross I was with him.

Yanbu. But I take a slightly more relaxed stance to squash with my second. I do generally give her water but will occasionally give squash/juice especially if ill. A gp said to me once one of the biggest factors in kids getting getting dehydrated these days is parents giving them just water as they don't drink as much of it compared to what they would with juice. It made sense. When I am ill I don't want water. I can't abide it. I want something sweet.

She ibu by not following your wishes and undermining you as a parent , she has had her turn at parenting these are your children

Tell her to back off, we know a lot more about the problems with a sugary diet now than in her day. Just tell her parenting has moved on and she needs to abide by your rules. My 3 yr old does not drink juice and I'd be livid if anyone gave it him.

I probably gave my dcs weak squash now and again at that age.
They all stilll like water now and have water with their dinner etc. They have more water than squash. It hasnt put them off!l their teeth are fine.
However its your chouce what you give your kids,not your mother.

Interesting comment from your gp bodicea

Jesus! Don't put anything in a baby bottle other than milk or water.
Babies suck for food and comfort. A baby comfort sucking milk or water from a bottle won't damage their teeth. The amount of sugar or fake shite in juice. If you're child comfort sucks it they're filling their mouth with baby tooth destroying sugar. It makes their mouth pH "wrong"

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Bloody iOS

Your mum can't be trusted if she's undermining you like that. Maybe don't have her around during meal times.

YANBU. Idon't give my dc juice and I would have been very cross if someone else had at that age. Ds is 2.9 years old now and has had juice- he drank another little boys at toddler group and didn't like it as he's not used to it. My friend had given her dc cordial from 4 months and that's all he'll drink now, because that's all he's used to.