To think this is quite cheeky?

[Fitzsimmons]

I put a brand new, sealed box of formula on a couple of local Facebook selling groups. I said that it was free and available to collect from my village.

I've since had five people messaging me, either in the comments or by Pm, including one accompanied by a friendship request (??) asking if I'd deliver it to places ranging from 5-15 miles away. Not one of them said please, just "will you deliver to x". AIBU in thinking this is cheeky? I'm offering free formula not a courier service.

I think it is cheeky. By the etiquette of past years and other mediums, it is incredibly cheeky. As it seems to be very common if not the norm on Facebook selling, maybe it isn't actually cheeky, just standard etiquette and a normal expectation for that medium.

Tbh someone who is desperate enough to need free formula probably doesn't have easy access to transport.

Just tell them to fuck off?

I don't think they are desperate, Nick, just rude chancers.

I think its cheeky yes but it seems to be standard on local fb selling pages.

No harm in asking, particularly if you are asking because money is too tight to run a car & collect it yourself. But a please would be nice.

Could you donate it to a food bank instead maybe?

NickNacks I totally agree. And I'd be far more inclined to help had they said "I'd really like the formula but I can't get to you, any chance you could deliver..."

And yes it is cheeky IMO!

Rainy That's a good idea, I'll see if my local one would accept it.

I've had a similar situation with furniture.

Put it up for free thinking it would get someone started, had a cheeky bitch arrive to collect with her dad he only took his stinking shoes off when my husband insisted... pissed and moaned about the stairs and fucked off again!

Oh yes, and it turned out it was 'just an extra set of furniture' for at her moms house...

I was really upset. I haven't donated via Facebook since.

I use Freegle and ask the collector to text me before setting out (the traders have multiple usernames but don't realise I can see all their previous texts on my phone).

And for clothes I specify that the person collecting must try them on to see that they fit. It's a great pleasure to give a smart interview suit to a decent person who has been out of work for a while.

I get this a lot on schpock.

'Collection only' means 'will I deliver 10 miles away'? apparently.

Will I swap £180 worth of high end photographic equipment for a scabby bike?

Will I take £80 for the above equipment?

If it wasn't for some really good deals I would close my account!

This happened to us, giving a quite high value item away on free cycle. Can you deliver, will you bring it in to town so I can meet you off the bus with it. THEN a woman looked DH up from his email address and sent a really personal scathing attack to him because he gave it to the first person who said they could pick it up. This crazy woman hadn't replied to say when she would be able to collect and it was taken off the site as soon as it had gone. Never again, we give everything to charity now, too many weirdos out there

Yanbu OP, but this was raised on another thread recently - well educated, well to do people tend to be able to communicate effectively and politely. Those that have had the hard knocks of life often can't. Worth bearing in mind.

FB selling groups are batshit though.