When would you expect Saturday date to be firmed up?

[whatmoredoyouwantfromme]

Chatting with someone who said he'd be free this week to go on date. It's been a bit touch and go with two conflicting schedules so I messaged a few days ago asking if this week was still good; he suggested Saturday evening. Anyway, we agreed and have heard nothing since then (two days ago). Aibu to expect him to sort a place/time etc? And when is "too late"?

If you've agreed the day and time I wouldn't think it too odd to firm it up just on the day.

If you need to know sooner, maybe text him? Or suggest somewhere yourself

I would wait until tomorrow and just drop a friendly message saying Just wanted to check we are still on for tomorrow and confirm a time and venue, do you have anything in mind?

Havent agreed time or place...

I'd message today, I don't think there's anything wrong with at least knowing what time you're meeting - you might be busy in the day and have to work around plans!

I wouldn't want to leave it til Friday; worst case scenario, you don't want to be left making last minute plans for the weekend on a Friday. But mostly I wouldn't want him to this 24 hours before the event is okay in my book for making plans - it isn't! - but then again I literally CANNOT relax until I have a SCHEDULE. But that's just me :)

"I wouldn't want him to THINK", not "this"!

Text him - 'So what's the POA for Saturday then?'
If he doesn't come back by tomorrow then another text stating you have booked something else as you hadn't heard, should do the job.
I'd have to know well in advance.
I'm a planner and have other things that I could do so I'd want a concrete plan in place as early as possible.

This is all good advice but I'm concerned about seeming too keen?! Also from past experience he's not great at thinking of places so I don't know whether to just suggest one. Argh, i would like him to make an effort though

If you don't want to seem too keen, then imply that you have other plans for earlier in the day, or another offer for plans Saturday evening, so that's why you need to know. You won't sound desperate, just like someone who's busy and popular

Just say "Hi Whatmoresdate. Do you fancy going to 'Insert venue'? Would 8 be good for you?".
Personally I would wait until tomorrow though.

I wouldn't worry too much about looking to keen; if you're wondering, you're wondering. May as well tell him!

And why wouldn't you want to know what your plans were for your own Saturday night before the day before? To me that doesn't say "excessively keen", that says "woman not prepared to waste perfectly good Saturday night if shaky plans are firmed up too late, or perhaps woman has daytime plans/other offers she doesn't wanted to be changing or taking up at the last minute because that would be rude".

But if you genuinely don't mind until tomorrow, don't text until tomorrow. I'd say if you're wondering about it today though just text and see where you stand :)