pregnancy congrats

[Ilovetea82]

So dh told some of his friends (male and female) that we are expecting three of them came back saying how wonderful it was for him and our DS, AIBU to be a bit miffed that none of them enquired as to how I was? I get the feeling I am not liked by this particular set (not invited to gathering when dh and DS are and also been blocked on Facebook for reasons that are beyond me!)

I thought you were having triplets when I first read it...

Most people just offer their congratulations. If they know you well, they might enquire how you feel. I wouldn't get upset about it. Congratulations!

His friends, his congrats. Just like my friends, my congrats

Obviously if we are both standing in front of them, then it's both of us congrats, but if he has told them on his own, he would have got the reply and then thought no more about it

Why should they ask how you are you are pg not ill

I don't understand congratulating people on pregnancies.

"well done for having unprotected sex"

Feels odd

I do congratulate on new babies though

Because creating new life still feels quite special to most people?

What do you say when someone tells you they're pregnant puzzled? Nothing?

I would have thought it was common courtesy to ask how I was as they asked about our son and then about some other friends that they hadn't seen in a while.
Perhaps I am just expecting too much, my friends all asked after dh and DS so I had expected the same sort of response.
It would seem perhaps Iabu

I think you are being unreasonable op. As long as they've said congratulations to your dh I'd assume that means both of you.

I would just think "did you want to be?"

Surely being blocked off Facebook is the bigger issue here?

I don't understand congratulating people on pregnancies

I offer all the congratulations if I know someone has struggled to conceive. To them, it isn't just having unprotected sex.

Whether it's deserving of "congratulations" or not, it's just what you say though isn't it?!

It doesn't look like in going to have my own kids so I find pregnancy announcements really hard to deal with, but you just put on a big smile and say congratulations because it's polite. I can't imagine anyone doing anything else.

I don't see the issue really. It's a bit self centred to expect them to be sending personal congratulations to you as well as saying it to your husband. Surely the general sentiment was there?

Why have they blocked you in Facebook?

When my dh told people we were expecting I thought they might say something to me but they didn't. My mil sent a message but nobody else did.

That was supposed to be a not a .

I didn't expect a message to me, just an enquiry to my dh as to how I was (as they seems able to enquire about others why not me as well)
No idea on the Facebook thing, dh did ask two of them several years ago but was met by sniggers and oh we don't really know how Facebook works.

purple I usually say "ah that's nice" or similar. Depending how well I know them I may throw in a "good luck" too

They've actually blocked you on Facebook and you 'get the feeling' they don't like you?

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP

I don't think it's realistic to expect these people to ask after you, as there's clearly some sort of history/other story somewhere.

Well they obviously really don't like you. I'm surprised your DH is still good friends with people who exclude you from invites and block you in Facebook.

Congratulations is a safe response and from the situation you've described, the best possible outcome.. How would you feel if they did ask about you but the questions were prying or judgemental questions? I'd rather just be told congrats and leave it there..

You're being really precious.

Unbelievable

The trouble is nobody is as excited as the mum/dad and immediate family.

Beyond say congratulations I'm not really that interested when someone announces their pregnancy, I suspect most people are like that.

I do know what you mean. It did make me feel a bit like a vessel. I have never felt more ill than when I was pregnant and I struggled emotionally too (with a very much wanted and awaited pregnancy). However I think that only applied to friends of mine. I wouldn't expect other people to say more than congratulations.