Saw friend and her DH today (our DHs work together, used to be very close, no so now).
She was 40 recently so talking about that and asked what she got. Her DH took her for a surprise meal for her present. He took her to a (very nice) seafood restaurant, however she's a vegetarian.
So her DH tells me all about all the amazing things he ate including a huge seafood platter, asked friend and she had 'mushroom risotto' and no starter (no veggie starters).
Honestly to me that's a shit present - he picked somewhere for himself. There's actually a very nice vegetarian restaurant near here and of course lots of others which would have more than bloody mushroom risotto (ex veggie here).
On top of that - he got her to drive!
My DH was then telling me how he had always fancied going there and he would take me! I'm allergic to seafood so was not a good choice and was very clear I would not be happy going! Especially as a treat for me!