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AIBU to find this a bit odd

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puddsmum49 · 01/08/2016 13:40

I am on holiday in Spain with my children, including 1 set of twins - which is probably why this struck a chord. There is a large family group staying at the same hotel, as far as I can tell it is mum, dad, twin daughters and the daughters' respective families ie husbands and children, plus a few others. The twins are probably early 30s or maybe very late 20s but the thing is they are always dressed absolutely identical, they even have the same hair cut. Other guests were talking to them and the common consensus was that it was great that they were so close, and how much fun it must be sharing clothes etc, I just sat theirs thinking it just looks weird to me. No idea if it's just a holiday thing, although I doubt it. Aibu to find it strange?

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 01/08/2016 13:43

I find it strange

There's twins that shop in the centre near where I live. They are over 50 I think but they always match.

I used to only see them when hungover and used to think I was still off my tits

Queenbean · 01/08/2016 13:44

If I had a twin I'd definitely do this. How fun.

I think you should mind your own business really.

Gladysmum · 01/08/2016 13:45

Derek Grin

MumUndone · 01/08/2016 13:45

Very strange. Do their husbands look similar??

marywollstonecraftsleftknee · 01/08/2016 13:55

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puddsmum49 · 01/08/2016 13:55

I was just going to add that before any one says it, I know that it is none of my business and of course as grown women they are free to dress as they want, but Queenbean got in there first. I find it strange that's all, others did not, just wondered if I was alone - which is the whole point of this part of the forum😜. My twins are 4, I dressed them alike occasionally but not religiously when they were babies, but not now. Their husbands look nothing like each.

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dogornodog · 01/08/2016 14:03

There are twins in a local town who must be in their 70s now. They are always together and always dressed identically.
It's sort of sweet but you wonder what else they may have missed out on in life.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 01/08/2016 14:14

It's weird. I find it odd with little ones too though. It just makes them even harder to tell apart! Confused

gabsdot · 01/08/2016 14:15

There are a set of twins who live near me. I see them walking their dogs. They are totally identical and quite distinctive looking, They dress alike, occasionally they will have the same jacket in different colours but usually they dress in the same colours.
I first started seeing them when my DS arrived and I was at home during the day for the first time. 13 years later and they haven't changed a bit.

Anyway. It is a bit unusual but there's no harm .

MrsBobDylan · 01/08/2016 14:46

I find it slightly annoying, which is vu of me as it harms no one. I think it's the attention-seeking aspect of it that bugs me.

That said toddler DS and I were both in denim dungaree shorts the other day so I am in no position to commentBlush

VioletBam · 01/08/2016 14:48

I remember talking to a girl on my degree course when I was young and she was a twin. She said "The thing is, I don't need any friends because I will always have my sister"

She never made one friend the whole course.

LazyTabloidJournalistCunts · 01/08/2016 14:49

How do they coordinate I wonder? Do they text each other in the morning and see what the other's wearing?

BocaDeTrucha · 01/08/2016 14:53

Yadnbu.... I'd find it odd too and pretty childish from grown adults. I understand why twins are dressed the same as kids, avoids squabbling etc, but it's still a lack of individuality.

ChicRock · 01/08/2016 14:56

I work with twins. They live a few doors down from each other. They dress very similarly. They had their children at the same time. They have the same friends. They've always worked together. They go out together, they go on holiday together. Only one of them is married and they never seem to do anything as a couple without the other twin tagging along.

I'd find it quite stifling but they're in their 40's and have always been like this, I doubt they're going to separate and suddenly become individual any time soon.

whateveryousay · 01/08/2016 14:58

What harm does it do? Live and let live.

davos · 01/08/2016 15:00

It doesn't harm me, but yeah I think it's odd.

When did it become not ok to have an opinion? I have opinions on all sorts of stuff that doesn't impact me.

Doesn't keep me awake a night or take up much Brian space. Don't see the big deal.

fuctifino · 01/08/2016 15:07

I have been to St Thomas's hospital as part of their twin research. The first time I went with my twin and we never dress the same. It freaked us out to see grown adults dressed exactly the same Confused.

Not sure why but it looks kind of creepy.

2kids2dogsnosense · 01/08/2016 15:15

I used to work in a large mail order firm, and there was a pair of twins like this - like you, I found it odd. When twins are five, dressing them the same and having the same hairstyle looks cute - when they're 25 it looks vaguely sinister. They ended up marrying brothers - double wedding, identical dresses.

I wonder what happened to them?

BreadPitt · 01/08/2016 15:18

There is a set of twins where I live who must be early 50's. They dress identically (alternatively) and are married to brothers (who may well be twins as well actually) who also dress the same. They all live together. They are quite a sight when walking into town.

SheHasAWildHeart · 01/08/2016 15:37

There were two women I worked with but in a different department, in their 60s and they lived together, worked together and always dress the same. They didn't talk to anyone else except each other.

madgingermunchkin · 01/08/2016 15:44

I don't get it personally.

And it's even worse when it's kids in the same family, but not twins.

One of those "irrationally irritates me for no logical reason" things.

blueturtle6 · 01/08/2016 15:47

If I had twins I'd dress them the same, but only because it takes ages to decide what dd is wearing Smile. But Yanbu grown ups dressed alike is weird.

LivingOnTheDancefloor · 01/08/2016 16:00

I have twins as well, I sometimes coordinate their clothes but never identical ones, ie same pattern on a shirt but different colours, or same colour but different clothing items.

In my street I often see 50+ yo twin ladies, always dressed the same. I believe they live together. When I say they are dressed the same, it is down to the handbag, the cardigan tied around the waist the same way, etc.
I find it half sweet, half sad... I would love to have a relationship like this with someone, but then when you have this it must be harder to build relationships with others...

LazyTabloidJournalistCunts · 02/08/2016 15:36

Isn't there a term for it? Emotional
Incest or something?

wornoutboots · 02/08/2016 16:37

"And it's even worse when it's kids in the same family, but not twins"

too bad, I dress my 6 year old and 3 year old boys the same when I can because THEY like it.

They thought it was amazing when we were on holiday and I pulled out new matching tshirts for them - and one for the 1 year old sister too.

I don't do it all the time, not practical but they love it when they can dress the same.

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