To curl DD's hair for school?

[Morgz76]

DD, who is 5, has her hair in a ponytail and I then loosely curl the end of her hair. My friend recently made a comment about where DD got her curly hair from and I explained, she was quite horrified and said that it was really bad?? AIBU??

I curl 5yo DDs hair when she asks me too, so maybe once every few weeks. I use heat protection products. She loves it.
YANBU.

What did she think was really bad? The fact that you curled the end of her hair? Don't see the issue unless you are spending a disproportionate amount of time styling her.

Tbh, this does seem a bit unhealthy to me. She's five -- why should you/she worry about how "pretty" she looks?

I don't think it's really bad but it is a bit weird! It's just hair, do 5 year olds care that much?

I think it'd be okay to curl a 5 year olds hair for say a wedding or special event maybe, but I think just to go to school it projects a bad image, at such an impressionable age, maybe that she's not pretty enough without or places too much emphasis on how you look at school rather than on what you achieve etc.

I've posted before about how I always thought I had curly hair as a toddler, turns out my mum used to do my hair with the curling tongs every day

It didn't damage my hair and i wasn't fussed (I was only 2 though so couldn't really have protested too much), if your daughter likes how it looks and wants it done then what's the problem?

If she likes it, I don't see the harm. When DD was little I used to love doing all kinds of fancy braids, and she enjoyed it! Hasn't done her any harm.

I.will add though that DD only asks for her hair curled when she sees me doing mine. If I didn't curl she wouldn't either, she wouldn't care.

Why does your friend think it is bad? I dont think there is anything wrong with doing it if you are both happy and the heat is not dangerous to your dd.

can't be great for her hair every day. even with protection sprays etc it still damages the hair.