We've been best friends for over 10 years. She's always been a bit unreliable, cancelling plans at last minute, forgetting plans, usually always always late ect.. I'm quite a pushover laidback so never really bothered me too much.
This is the fourth time in the last couple of weeks that she has made plans with me and then I just haven't heard from her, no explanation at all just completely goes silent on me, when she's done this in the past I at least will get a message a day or two later saying she forgot or whatever but it's literally been nothing and then maybe a week later talking to me like normal. All 3 times have annoyed me it's just this time has really got to me, we saw each other on Wednesday and I was a bit of a mess, my brother had been taken to hospital and it was serious, doctors at that point had no idea if he would make it. She knew I was going to visit him in hospital on the Friday so she suggested I come over Friday evening and have a drink together to calm me down, she mentioned it twice. Friday comes around and nothing.... 4 days later still nothing, not even a quick text to ask how my brother is, he's fine now but she doesn't know that. (She's been online so I know she's fine and working phone)
I know this is partly my fault, it's not like I have called her out on this when she does get back in contact with me, I'm really terrible at confrontation and she's quite hot headed I know she'll just be full of excuses.
Reading this back I sound like a door matt, and I know I need to grow a pair and talk to her about this but the thought of doing that really does make me really anxious, I have no idea how to go about it either