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[SadmummaLC]

I'm brand new to MN and after reading a lot of threads was so happy to join this huge community... I have very few mumma friends and always need advice/tips with my newborn.

I've posted a few questions looking for advice around general baby wellbeing and looking for others experiences to call upon. But I get very few or actually no replies at all!

I saw that the chat about amber heard and other trivial things got tons of responses though.

AIBU to feel a little left out?

What questions were you asking and what advice did you want? Some boards are quieter than others.

YABU. (Sort Of)

It depends on what you were asking. EG:
you're in a pub, filled with 50 people, you ask about the latest big news story, everyone knows it and has an opinion. then you ask about the ancient writings of the Yemenese people, no one replies because they have nothing to say.

So if the threads you started looking for advice weren't seen by people who could give advice, you'll get few responses.
Amber Heard, and topical.. erm? topics, everyone knows about and can reply so they get more responses.

Just keep plugging away, put your questions in the right places, or on chat, hopefully you'll get the answers you need. :)

It really depends where you are posting and who is on at the time. I find most threads on active.

The amber heard wasn't trivial though. Threads regarding DV usually do get a big response because it's a huge issue.

Also I can't seem to find the unanswered section on the app. So if a lot of people are using the App, your thread won't be in active and they can't see it.

I searched your name but can't see the threads, assume you have name changed, so can't answer them or help

Thank you for replying so quickly ladies. I just want to clarify straight off that in no way was I referring to DV as trivial and I'm sincerely sorry it read that way The thread I was referring to seemed to be a debate about whether she was a gold digger and lying...which is what I was thinking about when I said trivial.

I tried posting a question on the relevant section and got only 2 replies (which id like to acknowledge were helpful) so I posted my next one on _chat and nobody responded. It was about my DS sleeping pattern but I scrolled through Google in the end.

I can't find your other threads. Where are you posting?

Did you get your questions in the right section? Also it might be worth searching for any threads that other people might have started on the same subject. Mumsnet is brill and there is support out there but often things have been asked a million times before and people lose interest in replying.

Sorry, I see you were in the right section.

Did you change your name to start this thread? That's a bit of an odd thing to do if you want to draw traffic to your other threads.

Some topics are quieter than others-it really isn't personal. Try chat...

In all honesty, I changed my name to ask this specific question because if everybody thought I was being unreasonable I wanted to be able to post further baby related questions in the future without being remembered for this.

Sometimes this just happens. You can always bump your thread yourself. Chat moves quickly and other topics may not be active enough to see enough people. Or wait a few days and post again. Sometimes you just need to catch the right people at the right time.

Also the small number of replies you'd had might have said all that needed saying

sometimes you need to make the thread eye catching

Sorry, posted too soon, I mean, if it's a simple question rather than a debate, it might only take a couple of answers.
Don't lose faith, I've asked loads of questions that have gone unanswered! Don't take it personally!

I've started threads that have had no replies. One was about strawberries.

Probably best to search the topic and then post on any active threads that are relevant.

You also have to remember that many posters don't have kids or have older. Or even don't have any advice to give.

Both my kids were terrible sleepers until they were almost 4. I wouldn't have a any advice on sleeping.

But everyone can have an opinion on Amber Heard or current events.

Well I wouldn't say the thread about Amber Herd
As was irrelevant as it was about domestic violence.
However I can understand why on your first visit or thread and you get no replies it can look like a school yard clique, and you can take it personally. Sometimes threads take a few days to become active eg. One thread had about 2 replies for about 3 days and now. Its got about 100+ posts.
Welcome aboard.

It happens sometimes. You often get people posting in chat or aibu for traffic because they go unanswered in the relevant section.
My first & desperate sleep thread didn't get anything. I guess the same things get asked over & over.

I like to name change depending on what I'm talking about too. Very paranoid about being outed.

Although, I'm seriously considering joining the Ninja thread anyway

I'm sorry you feel that way OP
But they are a friendly bunch in chat AIBU I have learned can be umm 'lively ' and you can wish you hadn't asked some threads I go on I see someone has offered the same advice/support I would so it's a bit repetitive if I do the same doesn't stop some

My DCs are older and tbh dd1 didn't sleep through till she was 8 and still not guaranteed now she's 13 DD2 is the sleep queen so again nothing I can offer apart from it does get easier

What boards are you posting on op? Why don't you give them a bump and see if you get other replies?

Honestly when I reply to posts I have no idea if that person is a first time poster or has been on MN for years & I suspect that is the same for most others, so it will be nothing to do with you just joining.

I've started loads of threads and zilch. Nada. Tumbleweed.
Sometimes no one has an answer to give.
Or think someone else will answer better.
Or there was a very similar thread the day before.
Or the question has been done to death, there are some recurrent themes that crop up a lot.
Other times you get lots of replies. It's random.
You'll find the boards and threads that feel right for you in time.

Thank you everyone. I appreciate all of your responses