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Parking on my drive - WWYD?

32 replies

JojoLapin · 26/05/2016 21:43

We have a cleaner who has been coming to our house a day a week for several years and we like her very much, she is great. No one is at home during the day when she is in and she parks her car on our drive. So far, so good.

She has other clients in my neighbourhood and has recently taken the habit to park her car at my house when she goes there.

I can't help but feeling that it is a bit cheeky and there has been the odd occasions when I have been working from home and had to (frustratingly) call her to come collect her car so that I could park at my house.

On the other hand, I realise that parking is a bitch where I live and there is (on the majority of days) a free space at my house that helps her out. Why should I care, etc.

I have not said anything about it for the reason above reason even though I am not too comfortable about it. DH thinks I should. What do you think?

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dudsville · 26/05/2016 21:45

When you need to park give her a heads up so sure can move her car?

BloomingAzalea · 26/05/2016 21:50

^agree

MotherOfGlob · 26/05/2016 21:52

Or ask her to text you before she parks to make sure your drive is available?

BigMamaFratelli · 26/05/2016 21:53

If she's a good cleaner and you'd like to keep her I'd let it go. And do what dudsville said.

Original poster
JojoLapin · 26/05/2016 21:54

So it's cool and fair enough? Not exactly earth shattering I know :-) but appreciate your views, thanks.

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RaeSkywalker · 26/05/2016 21:56

Has she asked you? If not, that's really rude. I'd definitely ask her to text you before parking to check it's ok.

isitginoclock · 26/05/2016 21:57

Err... I think that's really rude of her. But if she's a good cleaner, you need to keep her sweet. Maybe ask her to text you if she wants to use the drive?

ShootingStar75 · 26/05/2016 21:57

If you don't mind her parking there majority of the time just tell her that you don't mind her using the drive but she needs to check with you before she does so as to to inconvenience you, your dh or your guests. She should be doing that as a basic courtesy anyways.

wobblywonderwoman · 26/05/2016 22:00

I think it doesn't register on her radar that its not fair on you.

I would gently bring it up in a nice way though as its your space

Original poster
JojoLapin · 26/05/2016 22:01

She texts and does it without me responding -as I am useless and usually don't check my messages

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 26/05/2016 22:03

The onus should be on her to check with you that it's ok to park, not the other way round. But that's still a slight pita isn't it? How many days a week does it involve?

I'll admint to finding it slightly grating that she has never asked if you would mind ...

Iknownuffink · 26/05/2016 22:12

First world problem.

Her parking on your drive whilst she goes and does another couple of houses rarely impinges on your quality of life.

Cut her some slack.

Hassled · 26/05/2016 22:16

I think you should let it go - she does text you, and you're shit with your phone (as am I), and if it causes you issues she comes and moves it. She's a good cleaner and you like her - that's worth more than whatever it would cost you to make this into an issue.

Original poster
JojoLapin · 26/05/2016 22:24

Iknow Hi, you sound great. Indeed 1st world problem (Mumsnet can do that too). If you read my comments you'll see that I am well aware of it. You'll also see that I have cut her some slack as I let her park at mine even though it is sometimes annoying. That was a helpful comment. Thanks.

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Ameliablue · 26/05/2016 22:25

It's not something I'd have a problem with, is just make sure she knows when you are likely to need the drive.

rollonthesummer · 26/05/2016 22:27

That would really annoy me!

ToadsforJustice · 26/05/2016 22:33

Perhaps you could text her on the days you need your drive?

Original poster
JojoLapin · 26/05/2016 22:33

Hassled fair point. Thanks.

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StylishDuck · 26/05/2016 22:52

I can't believe people are saying this wouldn't bother them! It would bother me. If she asked in advance and I said it was ok then fair enough but it's not on to assume your driveway is for her personal use.

AddToBasket · 26/05/2016 22:56

Jojo, where I live a good cleaner is like a good babysitter or a beautician - it's a sellers market. I would do a lot to keep my cleaner happy - probably including letting her park on my drive.

JapaneseSlipper · 26/05/2016 22:58

Totally agree with StylishDuck, but I guess at least she is asking. (Am also crap at checking my phone but I think you should be able to ignore your phone and not have it result in an unusable driveway!)

JapaneseSlipper · 26/05/2016 22:59

"I would do a lot to keep my cleaner happy" This makes me a bit sad.

StylishDuck · 26/05/2016 23:11

*Perhaps you could text her on the days you need your drive?
*
Seriously!!? OP maybe you should just hand over your car keys to her and then you won't have the issue of not being able to park in your own driveway! Hmm

Fontella · 26/05/2016 23:27

Jojo, where I live a good cleaner is like a good babysitter or a beautician - it's a sellers market. I would do a lot to keep my cleaner happy - probably including letting her park on my drive

Oh wow, every so often the rarified world of the mumsnet privileged pops up to remind the rest of us where we stand in the pecking order, and this post is a classic example.

ExitPursuedByADonkey · 26/05/2016 23:28

Sorry but that would really piss me off. But then I am a miserable selfish cow.

And are good cleaners really so hard to find?

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